Monday, September 7, 2009

Can You Tell When Enough Is Enough?

By Daniel D. Dalton

It is never easy to go through all the miseries and pain brought forth by a break-up. The hardest thing to fathom is, is it really over? Or when is over really over?

A relationship's fate is bound in either of two things: be a success or a failure. Obviously, the latter is despised but cannot be completely avoided. For the countless reasons for a relationship to end, the feelings that a person who has been left behind are all the same: alone, hurt, depression, betrayed, and other painful emotions possible.

Who's to Blame?

There is an excellent way to determine when over is over. Your answer relies on the person who took the step to put an end to the relationship. Read on and you will come across different circumstances to assist you in finding out when over is really over.

If your ex walked out from your relationship because he or she was fed up with a particular behavior or attitude that you already discussed several times before, it means that your partner sincerely loves and cares for you but the time has come when things are just too much for the person to handle.

Well, your ex's purpose is to make you aware that it's about time you change your ways. If you are ready to listen and give in to what is asked from you, then in no time, you will have your ex back.

Reading the Signs upon Reaching Dead End

On the contrary, if your partner ignores all efforts and ideas to try saving the relationship, looks as if he or she is eager to stay away from you, does not like to attend counseling classes, despise books or any material that helps in strengthening and building healthy relationships, or in short, is not interested to settle whatever the issue is within the relationship but rather, he or she wants nothing but out; hence, it entails that your relationship is coming to its end and the likelihood of getting back together is dim.

This type of walker already made plans on embarking on another chapter of his or her life with somebody else or may already found someone new. This person may be planning his or her exit strategy for quite some time already for he or she felt trapped within your relationship or has fallen out of love with you. Usually, on a case such as this, the walker disregards any hopes or chances of saving the relationship for the person wants nothing but to be out of the relationship.

Akin to anything else, somehow relationship ends if it is not meant to last. Whether there will be a second chance or a continuation of the story depends on the couple. However, if you are in the same situation wherein your partner shows similar characteristics with the latter of the above two situations, there is nothing much you can do but accept that it is really over.

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