Friday, October 2, 2009

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Forever

By Alice Michaels

Every relationship is unique and special; there is not one specific answer to the question of how to get your ex boyfriend back. That said, there are some general rules and guidelines that when followed, will greatly help you in your quest to reunite with your love.

Splitting up is hard on both of you! But men express their emotions differently than women do. So dont be upset if he appears to be totally nonplussed by the fact that the two of you have separated; it may just be an act on his part. Breaking up is hard! Its painful, and its confusing. Breaking up is emotionally exhausting and sometimes it can even be humiliating. What you need to try to remember when you are thinking of ways to get your ex boyfriend back is that you are not alone in feeling down in the dumps: he is probably feeling just as badly as you are right now!

In order to ever really be successful in getting your ex boyfriend back, you have to be able to face the truth. You need to be able to face the pain and be 100% honest with yourself about how you two went wrong. Why did you go off track? Where? When? When did you first start to feel that something between you was going wrong, and why did the cracks in your relationship start to form?

You must remember that the fault never belongs to only one person in the break up. What part did he play? What part did you play in the break up? Where did the communication break down? What was the final straw? The truth is that it doesnt even matter who left who; what matters is why.

Once you have determined the true reasons for the break up, you have to be honest with yourself again and really think about how much about yourself and your behaviors you are able and willing to change in order to make the relationship work. Leave the mistakes of the past in the past and move forward. Do not hold grudges; do not bring up past mistakes.

When you have assessed your part in the break up, go to him and without judgment or accusation, talk to him about your feelings and your hopes for the future.

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