Saturday, May 1, 2010

When Can You Benefit From Seeing A Relationship Coach

By Christian Bordner

If you are in a relationship that was once so happy, you might wonder how it became so unhappy. A person can never see how dysfunctional a marriage has become. If you no longer look forward to talking to each other, your marriage is in trouble. If something doesn't change, you will possibly lose the relationship. A relationship coach might be the answer to saving your marriage.

You value your marriage partner and want to keep the relationship intact. You know you still love her? Does she still love you? You can't, however, communicate with each other as you once did. But, are you ready to give up and let the relationship slip away? There must be some reason that things are in such a deplorable state.

If your relationship is still something you want, you are going to have to put some effort into saving it. If you can put other things first, like work and of course children, it takes away time you need to devote to each other. It's time for you two to have a date night. Take your partner out to dinner at a fancy restaurant some night soon. Agree to talk about nothing but yourselves. Maybe reminisce about the happiest times in your life together.

Pay attention to each other and enjoy the conversation. Use all the communication skills you can muster up. Talk about going for an objective outside opinion. Someone who has no personal investment in your marriage, can help you understand what has gone wrong. Make marriage work again.

Children shouldn't have to grow up in a home with parents who don't get along. However, you once got along just fine. Try to find that core of love that is in there somewhere. Do it for yourselves and the kids. Try once more and try hard.

There are tactics you can use to make your relationship work and work better than it ever did before. Look into your heart and try these tactics. Allow the relationship coach to help you even though it will be hard. His goal is to help both of you get along together, grow close again and save the marriage that you both once vowed would last forever.

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