When you get married or enter into another type of serious relationship the decisions you make about yourself will not also affect another person. Being independent is great and standing your ground and not always giving into your partner is a sign of that independence. I'm all for self determination, but when your decisions affect someone else some compromise is called for.
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you're about to do) doesn't make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
So to make sure you stay on the smart road in your relationship, read on for six things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before making a decision.
Contraception
Whether it's going on or off birth control, or getting your tubes tied, any moves that affect your ability to get pregnant should definitely be discussed with the other part of your partnership. It may be your body but if you're having intimate relations they definitely have a vested interest.
Throwing out leftovers
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Key purchases
Even if your last name is Rockefeller or Hilton, running your plans for big ticket items like cars, houses and boats past your significant other is just good relationship strategy.
Adding to the family
Okay, that little puppy you saw at the pet store when you went to buy fish food is cute what with that heart breaking little face and all. I know how tempting that can be. And that last time you were shooting that movie and your partner was looking after the other kids and you saw that orphan that just melted your heart? Also tempting. But resist you must. Adding to your family should only be done with your partner's okay.
Getting tattoed
Anywhere on your body that has their name in it. That's all.
Erasing the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn't mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you're about to do) doesn't make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
So to make sure you stay on the smart road in your relationship, read on for six things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before making a decision.
Contraception
Whether it's going on or off birth control, or getting your tubes tied, any moves that affect your ability to get pregnant should definitely be discussed with the other part of your partnership. It may be your body but if you're having intimate relations they definitely have a vested interest.
Throwing out leftovers
Some people seem to keep leftovers until they qualify for scientific experiments. But the minute you chucked it all in the garbage, that's when they decide they want to finish it. It's one of life's mysteries! So play it safe and always ask before throwing out leftovers.
Key purchases
Even if your last name is Rockefeller or Hilton, running your plans for big ticket items like cars, houses and boats past your significant other is just good relationship strategy.
Adding to the family
Okay, that little puppy you saw at the pet store when you went to buy fish food is cute what with that heart breaking little face and all. I know how tempting that can be. And that last time you were shooting that movie and your partner was looking after the other kids and you saw that orphan that just melted your heart? Also tempting. But resist you must. Adding to your family should only be done with your partner's okay.
Getting tattoed
Anywhere on your body that has their name in it. That's all.
Erasing the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn't mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
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