Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazing things that we can ask when we want to learn about someone else.
Dale Carnegie in his best selling ever book, "How to win friends and influence people" shares about the benefit of asking interesting questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you ever been to a party and you've been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting - funny that! You probably did less that but you got 100% of the credit!
If you're a guy and ask some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you're a lady and want to stroke a guy's ego and make him feel good, then just ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you're a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What is you all time favourite book and why?
3. If you had the chance to choose 5 people to invite to dinner - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?
4. If you could become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do when you got there?
5. If someone were to make a comedy show about part of your life, which part would they script and what would be found in the script?
6. What was your favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them?
7. What do you regret the most in your life?
8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with someone who is so much smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date and did you kiss them?
11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. What is more important to you in a woman - good looks or intelligence?
And now let's get a little more risqu! Obviously you would have had a few drinks before asking some of these questions!
15. Have you ever been caught with your pants down in a public place - if so what were you doing?
16. What's the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could change the age that you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What are your biggest sexual turn-ons and turn-offs?
19. Were you ever unfaithful with your partner? If so did they find out and if so what did they do?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do?
21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
Dale Carnegie in his best selling ever book, "How to win friends and influence people" shares about the benefit of asking interesting questions to show that we are interested in someone else.
Have you ever been to a party and you've been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting - funny that! You probably did less that but you got 100% of the credit!
If you're a guy and ask some great questions, you will often find yourself leap-frogging to final base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you're a lady and want to stroke a guy's ego and make him feel good, then just ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.
Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl
1. If you're a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What is you all time favourite book and why?
3. If you had the chance to choose 5 people to invite to dinner - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?
4. If you could become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do when you got there?
5. If someone were to make a comedy show about part of your life, which part would they script and what would be found in the script?
6. What was your favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them?
7. What do you regret the most in your life?
8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with someone who is so much smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date and did you kiss them?
11. What was the worst lie you have ever told in your life? Did you get caught out?
12. If you instantly turned into a woman just for a day, what would you do with your day and why?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. What is more important to you in a woman - good looks or intelligence?
And now let's get a little more risqu! Obviously you would have had a few drinks before asking some of these questions!
15. Have you ever been caught with your pants down in a public place - if so what were you doing?
16. What's the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could change the age that you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What are your biggest sexual turn-ons and turn-offs?
19. Were you ever unfaithful with your partner? If so did they find out and if so what did they do?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do?
21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?
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