Saturday, August 14, 2010

Do Not Be Scammed When Looking For Russian Brides

By Lera Cupidonova

It is common knowledge that men and woman generally want the same thing when it comes to marriage. Both want to find someone who is committed to them for life. In conservative countries like Russia, marriage is sacred to the culture. Russian brides are an ideal choice for a man who is looking for a woman who is beautiful and committed to marriage.

In Russian culture, marriage determines social status and demands respect. Women are taught that it is their responsibility to bear children and be the person primarily responsible for the child. From an early age, women are taught that maintaining the home and taking care of the family is their sole responsibility.

This way of thinking is not common in western women. Women's liberation taught women to believe that they do not have to solely exist to be wives and mothers. Many western men do not believe this and choose women from different cultures who are committed to being just a wife and mother.

The most common way to find an international bride is to use the Internet. There are hundreds of dating websites and dating agencies that are devoted to linking men with Russian women who want to leave their country and marry. This is often referred to as buying a mail order bride. However, dating online is not as simple as ordering from a catalog. There are certain key elements to consider when doing this because not all dating websites and agencies are honest. Some of them are simply scams. When you are linked with a woman, be upfront and honest about what you are seeking and expect her to do the same.

One of the most obvious indicators that she may be trying to use a man for monetary purposes is if she begins the conversation asking for expensive gifts or help financially. A woman who is solely looking for a husband will not say that she needs gifts and money.

You will communicate with the woman often, mostly through email and chats. However, it is important to take it a step further. Use modern ways to communicate as well. Phone, Skype, iChat and video conferencing are all available to help with this long distance relationship. If the woman is not willing to communicate using any of these ways, move on. She is probably trying to scam you.

While you are in communication with the woman and she says how much she loves you, consider this a red flag. Russian women do not take the words I Love You lightly. If she is telling you this early on, it is best to move on from her and continue looking for the right one.

If you have determined that the woman is right for you, it may be time to meet her in person. If you are prepared to finance the trip, take the proper precautions to guarantee you do not get scammed out of your money. Sending money to the woman or dating agency for a ticket is a bad sign. Offer to buy the ticket yourself. If this is not acceptable, it is most likely a scam to get your money.

Once the woman is with you, in your country, it is not the time to start planning to get married. This is the time to start dating the traditional way. Even though the intentions were made clear, a woman still likes to be courted. This is your opportunity to make sure she is the right person for you.

Although this is not a traditional way to find a bride, it is a perfectly acceptable method. If Russian brides are what you seek, then do not be afraid that society will not accept your new wife. Take your time and follow these simple guidelines and you will be on your way to a happy marriage.

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