Sunday, April 11, 2010

Simple Tips To Avoid Struggle In Relations

By Judith J. Conway

Any relationship that exists between two people is bound to have its own set of issues. Since no two folks are made alike, a clash is unavoidable at some point or the other. These general clashes or conflicts- regardless of magnitude- can turn truly evil occasionally and end up damaging the connection. Therefore, to avoid such a difficulty one must learn how to avoid conflict within a relationship.

Have an ear. This is one of the first and the most vital things that you need to do if you need to avoid arguments for petty reasons. Many a times, people finish up fighting simply because they're not listening to one another. Make sure that you hear out your other half well and then answer. If both of you keep on talking, then there will be no one to listen.

Many a times you may have the urge to yell or break the other person's head when in a major debate. Don't do that. Instead, count until 10 or think of things that you like. Try imagining yourself in your favorite holiday spot for a bit. This may calm you down. When you are relaxed, you'll be able to put your thoughts forward in a better manner.

Try and empathize with the situation at hand and it'll aid you in keeping away from unnecessary quarrels. Put yourself in your partner' shoes and try and understand his/her perspective on the matter better. After you understand what it is they're trying to say, the chances of having a fight would be noticeably reduced. Even if you don't entirely concur with your partner's view, you have to at least respect them for it.

Fights in any relationship are normal and pretty obvious also.However,always ensure that the conflicts are fair in nature. If you're of the opinion a particular conflict can be resolved only by a discussion or a fight, you are free to go on with the conflict. All that you need to do is to be sure that the fights are fair. Never pick up the past issues and intermix them with the present conflicts and difference of opinions. The more you bring your past issues in the present, more is the chance of discord and conflicts in the relationship.

Fighting doesn't imply you can go all trashy and wicked with the other person. In the middle of the ugliest of fights you shouldn't lose respect for the individual at the other end. Irrespective of how fuming and irritated you are it's not justified to call your partner names. Also you must steer clear of making any harsh and inappropriate comment about your other half. Additionally try to tone down your volume even when you are fighting. You can have a conflict without the prerequisite to raise your volume too. Women are recommended to avoid weeping or crying as this may make things difficult for men to handle and the debate too, comes to a unexpected halt.

So don't be under the impression that any relationship can remain without a conflict. The problem can be easily solved if you act in the right demeanor. You've got the option of either correcting the problem or worsening it further. So select your pick and act accordingly.

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