Saturday, February 26, 2011

Keep It Up, Nice Guys - You'll Win at Dating

By Mike Morton


Attracting women is no easy job. Confidence is crucial if you ever hope to start something new with a woman you're interested in. Whether you feel like she's out of your league or like the girl next door, the right communication skills will definitely grab her attention.

Again, confidence is key. You have to look confident as well as be confident. To do this, take a good look in the mirror first and ask yourself if you're dressed properly. Run a comb through your hair and spray a little bit of aftershave.

When you find someone interesting at a party or in a cafe, go up to her and start a conversation. Get some small talk going. Just make sure you look her in the eye when you talk. You'll come across as fidgety and nervous when you have a shifty gaze, which will just make you look like you can't handle a simple conversation.

Add some humor into the conversation. Tease her a bit on, say, what she's wearing or the bag she's holding. But make sure it's not something offensive. When you tease her and succeed in making her smile or laugh, you come across as a guy who's light and fun to be with. Since you're just in the getting-to-know-you stage, you'll win points with your light attitude early on.

Women appreciate a sense of humor. Comment on her clothes or her accessories, but be careful. Teasing shouldn't be offensive. Rather, it should put a smile on her face and make her feel like you're a guy she can have a great time with. Take note that this is just the first step to a possible relationship and you still have a long way to go. But if you grab her attention with a fun attitude and outlook on life, you're off to a great start.

The best way to get a woman to reveal more about herself is to ask questions that are open-ended. If you ask her about her work or other activities by beginning your questions with "how" or "what", you'll easily learn more about her.

Being on the same wavelength is a foolproof indicator that a woman is getting more and more excited about getting to know you more. You can see it in the way she speaks and in the manner which she maintains eye-contact. If she feels like you're great company, then half your job's done.

You'll only see success with attracting women if you go and try it out. So make sure to be confident when coming up to a woman. Look her in the eye and strike up a conversation that you're in control of. With a little practice, you're sure to get great results!




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