Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Thinking About "How To Get My Girl Back"

By Tony G. Mann

Generally, when a break up in a relationship occurs, it is tough on both the people. Often, one of the two involved will move on to a new relationship very quickly in order to avoid the pain of the break up. If you are wondering " How will I get my girl back?", it is not at all surprising.

In case your ex has already entered into a fresh relationship, it must definitely be causing you a lot of pain especially if you still care for her. Though it appears tough, it is possible to get back with your girl and wean her away from the other man. Every step you take must be based on sound judgment and great cautiousness because after all, you don't wish to do anything rash and drive her away even further.

The first step in this process of trying to get back with your ex is to examine the reasons for your break up. If you wish to re-establish a loving relationship with her, you need to learn from your mistakes. If you had conducted yourself poorly in a particular situation, try to see how best you can correct it. Accept to yourself firstly where you went wrong and try to improve the quality of communication with her. Don't trespass any limits that she has set. While you need to have an honest relationship, don't pressurize her by constantly reminding her that you love her very much. Go about restoring closeness slowly and carefully.

Start out by emailing her or calling up to chat in a friendly and light manner. Build up friendship with her and she is bound to appreciate your patience. A lasting romantic relationship needs to be built on a foundation of good friendship. So, first make friends with your ex and the romance will follow and this time for keeps.

Honesty and straightforwardness are the keys to renewing your relationship with her. Don't do something stupid like making her jealous. Let her know that you care but be careful not to exert emotional pressure. If she feels uncomfortable with your declaration, back off and try again after some time.

Perhaps you had never really paid any attention what your girlfriend said and this was one of the reasons why she left you for another person. If this is true, you must make sure that you learn to be a good listener. When your girlfriend can see for herself that you had honestly made every effort to be a better person she might consider coming back to you. You must make sure that you can be a charming companion by leading an active life.

If you succeed in becoming the sort of person your girlfriend had always wanted you to be, there is no reason why the two of you could not resume your former intimate relationship.


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