Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Tips On Getting Your Ex Back After A Breakup

By Sonja Schuyler

If you have ever experienced a break up, you probably wondered what went wrong and how to get your ex back. Most people have experienced some kind of a break up. While some are doing their best to move on, some are looking for ways to get their ex back. You know it takes some work to get an ex back.

Does breaking up mean that you cannot get back together with your ex? Ninety percent of the time there is really no reason why you can't get an ex back after a break up. You just need to learn what steps are necessary to win your ex back.

Before doing anything else, the first step in getting your ex back is learning what happened that caused the break up in the first place. You can't change what happened in the past but you can learn from the mistakes. You can grow from the experiences.

You need to figure out what went wrong in the first place. Your break up might have happened from one event or it may have occurred from several things. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get it figured out so you can deal with it should it come up again if you want to make the reconcillation last the long term,

A needy person is not the image you want to project. Do not make it obvious that you cannot live without your ex. Stay strong. Be self confident. Remember, you will have a better chance of getting back together if your ex knows that you are doing just fine by yourself.

Don't try being nasty or try to get back at your ex. Also, trying to make your ex jealous is not a good idea. You don't want your ex to move on because he thinks you have. Though you want your ex to see you doing well, you do not want to inspire him or her to completely move on if your goal is to get back together.

Always analyze what went wrong and find out what the problems in your relationship were. What caused the arguments? Which needs weren't being met? Work on rectifying those issues.

For more great techniques, principles and advice, I would recommend the The Magic Of Making Up. It has helped hundreds of men and women just like you win back the mind, heart and soul of the ones they love.

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