Saturday, January 9, 2010

Breaking Up - Does It Need To Be Hard?

By Shawne M. Patrick

Breaking up is hard to do. Somebody usually ends up hurt, whether conscious or not. But it doesn't have to be as bad as many make it appear. One thing about breaking up is : it is not a bad affair. Look at it from a different viewpoint. Whether it's guys splitting up with girls, or the other way around, it can essentially be a nice thing for both parties concerned.

The process of ending a relationship also has rules. Maybe they are not immovably set type of rules, but more unwritten apropos basic kindness. Obviously, not every situation can be though of as civil. Nevertheless, in relationship where true respect is concerned, there are some tacit methods to treat a split.

First off, think about yourself. If you were the one to hear the bad news that your squeeze or hubby wished to end the relationship, how would you feel? How would you need to feel? You would not wish to be let down in a communal area in front of other folks. You wouldn't need it to be in a situation where you are enjoying yourself. Nor would you need to become embarrassed in any way. These are things to think about if you wanted to end a relationship with someone. You need to treat others the way you want to be treated - with respect and empathy.

In many cases, it doesn't need to be a bad break at all . You both may not get along, and may decide to not even be chums any longer, let alone consider getting married. That's fine. You can move on with your life, and so are they able to. But an important aspect in or out of any relationship is to talk about it. Both parties must be ready to share their feelings across the relationship, not just when the time has come for breaking up.

If the lines of communication aren't there, then it will be tougher on everyone involved, and chances are, there will be unanswered questions that would have presumably stopped this split up.

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