Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Dating Older Guys Suggests a More Mature Relationship

By Alan Bentley

The question many women ask themselves these days is whether it is okay dating older guys. Will society frown on them, what will their acquaintances say behind cupped hands and will their friends be accepting? To many single women looking for stability, this concept can be very appealing, especially if the older gentleman is established.

If we analyze history, we can see that it is quite usual for a more mature man to be accompanied by someone less independent and younger. The concept of dating older guys is firmly established, especially as it seems that the man is always better known as the leader of the household and the breadwinner.

To many women dating older guys makes so much more sense as compared to someone of their own age. After all, it is likely that a more mature man is also mature financially and emotionally. His career would be established and he will have been through all of those uncertainties that exist between college and midlife.

Women who have experienced dating older guys point to the fact that they have more societal skills than younger people do and that they tend to give women more attention and make them feel more special. You might notice how he will be more inclined to pull a chair out for you at a restaurant, open the door for you or otherwise be more adept at a social occasion or dinner party.

While a lot of women do not want to appear as if they are kept, and have career aspirations of their own, they may also want to consider dating older guys as they may not be happy with the lack of drive amongst men of their own generation. Their more mature consort will have worked just as hard as they have and will be just as serious about the career. This will in itself establish a good foundation for a good relationship.

Do not expect a successful relationship to develop if the man who you are with is viewing you as some kind of a "trophy" wife. Be sure before you begin dating older guys that you do not come up against someone who looks at his date as a symbol of his success in some way.

Financial stability must be at the forefront of your mind if you are considering the prospect of raising children in your future. This can be a powerful driving force when you are looking for a mate and you may well consider dating older guys to be positive as it is likely that they will bring a huge element of stability to the home environment and relieve the pressure from a financial standpoint.

To be fair, you should not ask yourself whether it is right to be seen dating older guys if a man that you have found is the right one for you. Love knows no age barriers and if both parties feel the same way you're as likely to be successful in your relationship as otherwise.

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What If I Dumped My Boyfriend But I Regret My Decision?

By Andyl Bergerl

One day you are dating your boyfriend who you love so much but then you notice some things in your bf that you have not noticed before. This something eventually drove you to conclusions that you may not like him anymore. But if you asked yourself, was it reasonable to break up with him just because of that small something?

Perhaps you've told yourself that it was the way he ate his food? Or the way he laughed or perhaps even something as earth shattering as the way that he walked? Whatever it was that made you turn around and end up with a dumped boyfriend, boy are you regretting it now because now, you want him back. But here's the thing he wants nothing to do with you and everything that you've tried so far to get him back, as failed.

To ask you, did you try leaving you ex boyfriend some time alone? I am certain that you did hurt his pride and feelings and may have humiliated him. If you have been trying to call him for hours and when he does not pick up his phone, then that is surely a sign that you must be giving him some space.

It is definitely recommended that you stop sending him several text messages every minute and try to stop yourself from picking up the phone to call him. Give your bf sufficient time to think about things and let him find reasonable motives why you just scrapped him without any warning signs.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

An individual who manipulates someones feelings can be suffering from confidence issues. A person with low self esteem must fight this tendency to manipulate someones feelings to assure something. You must change it because self confidence defines who you are and how you carry things. There will be times that you may think something negative about yourself so you must contest it. Look for ways to address the real problem and do not pin it to someone else.

You have to change first before you can present yourself again to your boyfriend. No guy wants to spend his time around someone that is controlling and a girlfriend that is out of control. In the future, try to be very sure before making any decisions and find reasons that are reasonable in doing so.

Instead of jumping to conclusions and then dump your boyfriend immediately, try sitting down with him and talk about your issues with the relationship. Doing it that way will make you more mature and your boyfriend will see that you are a rational person.

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