If you are thinking of joining a dating website, you may be a bit overwhelmed by the number of sites which are out there. Where do you start? Its a good question, many websites attract scammers, people who are more interested in fleecing you of your hard earned cash rather than meeting you and starting a relationship. This issue is especially prevalent at adult dating sites. So how do you protect yourself?
The problem is that some women are not actually signed up to these websites to meet you in real life. Rather, they are looking to meet you online so they can get you to sign up to their own website, which is a paid site requiring you to spend money to continue your association with them. These women are always attractive, they are always tempting, and they are always convincing.
So the scenario runs like this. You join up to an adult dating site and have a look around. When you see some girls you'd like to meet you pay the dating site fee so you can contact them. You come back a day or 2 later and some of these hot girls have gotten back to you. GREAT! You reply back, and your reply is followed up by a request to meet them at an alternative site, for which they'll give you their personalized link.
If you are interested in this woman you will probably follow her instructions and follow her to the site, which is another membership website. You'll need to join up to this one to find the woman you were speaking to. This one will have all manner of great feature, interactive webchat etc, all of which you can use once you hand over your credit card.
Your credit card will be used either to pay for another membership fee, or to pay to view the girls. There will be webcams at this site, so you'll get to see, talk and interact with these girls online, paying all the way. Obviously the girl who introduced you to this website makes a cut on every cent you spend. That's how she makes her money, that's why she wanted to meet you.
A month down the track you will get another charge from the original dating site, the renewal for the first one you joined. At this moment in time, you'll realize you haven't even been using the original site. All you've been doing is webcamming. You'll also realize you haven't met a single girl in real life.
Further you will realise that you have spent way more than you budgeted as you will have paid them to talk to you on their web-cams. And finally (and hopefully by now) you'll realise these girls never actually want to meet you. So its all lost time and money.
This type of scam is a danger to men at most dating sites. The owners of many sites though take responsibility for this type of thing and try hard to verify many of their members in an attempt to protect their paying members. This is why site selection is important if you are going to join one. If you want to meet people in real life and not just online, do your research before you hand over your credit card. Only join the reputable dating sites.
The second way you can avoid falling into this trap, is by setting a rule that you will not follow women who want you to join another website, no matter how hot they are. Lets look at the facts here. The purpose of joining the original dating site was to find women to introduce yourself to. That's it.
Once you have met someone on a dating website, what possible purpose can meeting the same person at another website serve. You have already met them. To move this forward you are supposed to build some trust and then go and meet them in real life. Going to another website instead is a sidewards move. It serves no purpose, so don't do it.
One last idea you can try is to only ever be a member of one dating website at a time. So no matter what happens, never join a second dating site until you have quit the one you are already a member of. This will ensure you test each website individually and remain true to online dating. IE. You will use the site to meet women for dating. Only quit and join the next site if you are not getting acceptable results.
One point about this method though, if you have joined your third reputable dating site and still not getting a level of response that is acceptable, have a look at your profile or internet manner. This is probably the issue. Dating online is a skill which can be learned, its a skill men need to learn to be successful at dating sites. So don't throw out the baby with the bath water if this is you, research, learn, improve and find success.
The problem is that some women are not actually signed up to these websites to meet you in real life. Rather, they are looking to meet you online so they can get you to sign up to their own website, which is a paid site requiring you to spend money to continue your association with them. These women are always attractive, they are always tempting, and they are always convincing.
So the scenario runs like this. You join up to an adult dating site and have a look around. When you see some girls you'd like to meet you pay the dating site fee so you can contact them. You come back a day or 2 later and some of these hot girls have gotten back to you. GREAT! You reply back, and your reply is followed up by a request to meet them at an alternative site, for which they'll give you their personalized link.
If you are interested in this woman you will probably follow her instructions and follow her to the site, which is another membership website. You'll need to join up to this one to find the woman you were speaking to. This one will have all manner of great feature, interactive webchat etc, all of which you can use once you hand over your credit card.
Your credit card will be used either to pay for another membership fee, or to pay to view the girls. There will be webcams at this site, so you'll get to see, talk and interact with these girls online, paying all the way. Obviously the girl who introduced you to this website makes a cut on every cent you spend. That's how she makes her money, that's why she wanted to meet you.
A month down the track you will get another charge from the original dating site, the renewal for the first one you joined. At this moment in time, you'll realize you haven't even been using the original site. All you've been doing is webcamming. You'll also realize you haven't met a single girl in real life.
Further you will realise that you have spent way more than you budgeted as you will have paid them to talk to you on their web-cams. And finally (and hopefully by now) you'll realise these girls never actually want to meet you. So its all lost time and money.
This type of scam is a danger to men at most dating sites. The owners of many sites though take responsibility for this type of thing and try hard to verify many of their members in an attempt to protect their paying members. This is why site selection is important if you are going to join one. If you want to meet people in real life and not just online, do your research before you hand over your credit card. Only join the reputable dating sites.
The second way you can avoid falling into this trap, is by setting a rule that you will not follow women who want you to join another website, no matter how hot they are. Lets look at the facts here. The purpose of joining the original dating site was to find women to introduce yourself to. That's it.
Once you have met someone on a dating website, what possible purpose can meeting the same person at another website serve. You have already met them. To move this forward you are supposed to build some trust and then go and meet them in real life. Going to another website instead is a sidewards move. It serves no purpose, so don't do it.
One last idea you can try is to only ever be a member of one dating website at a time. So no matter what happens, never join a second dating site until you have quit the one you are already a member of. This will ensure you test each website individually and remain true to online dating. IE. You will use the site to meet women for dating. Only quit and join the next site if you are not getting acceptable results.
One point about this method though, if you have joined your third reputable dating site and still not getting a level of response that is acceptable, have a look at your profile or internet manner. This is probably the issue. Dating online is a skill which can be learned, its a skill men need to learn to be successful at dating sites. So don't throw out the baby with the bath water if this is you, research, learn, improve and find success.
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In recognising the number of charletons at adult dating sites, Jayde Johanssen encourages men to research dating sites robustly before spending their cash
