While you search the Internet for that special lady...the one of your dreams...your soul-mate...the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right. And naturally, you can also fail miserably in other areas, and virtually guarantee that you won't find what you are looking for. In a real world situation, meeting people face to face, it pays to be aggressive, up front, demanding and to sometimes tell a little white lie. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman's point of view. Being too aggressive has the unfortunate tendency to make you come across as scary, and it makes the other person want to be as far away from you as possible. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. You can never underestimate the importance of being patient.
None among us is even close to perfection. Everybody has some things that are less that perfect, that includes you and me as well. If you think you can find perfection in another person, you are going to be let down for sure. Demanding perfection can help you close more sales, and make more baskets, but that's a different thing entirely. But when you expect perfection from another person, or a friend or potential lover, it definitely will not work. It won't happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Find out what are some personal deal breakers, and the things that you can live with.
Even telling small lies you think don't matter won't get you anywhere. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Spice it up a bit, but don't but any lies or falsehoods in there. I'm sure you know that the truth will somehow make its way out. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember...don't be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman's point of view. Being too aggressive has the unfortunate tendency to make you come across as scary, and it makes the other person want to be as far away from you as possible. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. You can never underestimate the importance of being patient.
None among us is even close to perfection. Everybody has some things that are less that perfect, that includes you and me as well. If you think you can find perfection in another person, you are going to be let down for sure. Demanding perfection can help you close more sales, and make more baskets, but that's a different thing entirely. But when you expect perfection from another person, or a friend or potential lover, it definitely will not work. It won't happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Find out what are some personal deal breakers, and the things that you can live with.
Even telling small lies you think don't matter won't get you anywhere. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Spice it up a bit, but don't but any lies or falsehoods in there. I'm sure you know that the truth will somehow make its way out. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember...don't be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
