Friday, January 1, 2010

I Need Body Language Advice

By Alan Bentley

Few of us exude the ultimate in self-confidence, especially when we are getting ready to go out on a new date. It's natural to be nervous, excited and to anticipate what could be the start of a long and fruitful relationship and it is normal to feel the butterflies in your stomach. You tend to worry about how you will project yourself and what he will think of you after the first date.

If you are a worrier at heart, you may be seeking a lot of body language advice for your first meeting with the cute guy you have always had your eye on. People say that you can tell a lot about someone just by looking at body language and how do you know whether he is a body language advice expert to start off with!

We can learn from body language advice experts who tell us that we need to come from a position of dominance whenever we meet somebody. This is not to say that you should be aggressive, but rather assertive, as natural confidence appears very palatable to others. Talking a lot does not cut it as a picture will always tell 1000 words. Subconsciously, you won't get the message across.

As human beings, we all have the ability to assess the make up of someone we meet for the first time, even if we don't realize it. We make assumptions based on the "vibes" that we feel and as much of this is derived from the way that we present ourselves, body language advice is often sought.

Maintaining eye contact is the rule number one when listening to body language advice. It is absolutely essential that you do this as it says a lot about a person.Looking at somebody squarely in the eye is a deliberate action and should not be underestimated. Remember not to break your gaze until after he does, as otherwise it is seen as an act of submission.

Don't be rude when you are talking to somebody and focus on other things, be they checking your mail, writing a text, watching the TV or cooking something on the stove. You need to give that person your undivided attention, quite apart from it being rude not to do so.

If you tend to slouch when you are standing or sitting, you need to pay attention to your posture as this is very important when you meet somebody. You could find that you are not devoting enough of your time to your workout regime, which will naturally help you to compose yourself better. Stand really tall and take a deep breath and see how much better you feel.

Nervous gestures come to our aid when we are in awkward or embarrassing situations. You see them all the time -- but nervous twitches, the tapping hand gestures or fee, these can all be very distracting and you need to focus on your inner calm before you do anything!

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