Saturday, October 31, 2009

Ways Of Winning Back Your Lover

By Allison Thompson

There are times in a person's life where they will lose someone who they love. Most breakups when they occur are very hard for both people concerned, but not always it will actually depend on what has caused the breakup in the first place. What one needs to remember however is that relationships in order for them to flourish need to be nurtured and if you want your partner to stay around then you need to pay ample love and attention to them.

Sometimes when a relationship does come to an end then either one or both people do actually want to get the other one back. However, in some cases it is far better if you take a step back from the situation and let things stay as they are for the time being. In fact sometimes agreeing to a break up can be for the best and through the use of reverse psychology you may find you are able to get your lover back into your life. So what you need to do is act as if by breaking up you are taking a positive step towards building a better future for yourself.

The worse thing that any woman can do when they are trying to win back a lover is to act needy. Remember "no one needs the needy" and by being clingy and showing you can't let your lover go is sure to turn them off and make them even more remote to you than they already are. Dealing with any kind of break up is very difficult and especially so when they mean the world to you. If you have to scream and cry about losing them then do it where they won't see.

When it comes to trying to rebuild a relationship that is broken then close all communication avenues between each other. Although you may think that communication is important for any relationship to be successful when trying to mend one which is broken it is far better if you don't. Certainly by having little or no contact may be for the best and may be just what the other person needs. Often once a break up has taken place and they begin to see just how much they miss you then they might come back to you if it is meant to be.

For whatever reason you shouldn't just stay and home and sulk, instead what you need to do is get out and go and have some fun with your friends. As they say laughter is the best medicine for whatever is ailing you, and this includes a broken heart. You don't have to date or have anything to do with anyone that may be a possible love interest. You just need to go out with your friends and enjoy yourself.

Do not try to be someone you are not, even if what you are trying to be will appeal to your love. Your love was attacked to your in the first place, why try to change now. There are times in a relationship when one or both partners may get bored with the other and just need a change because they for got why they fell in love with the other person in the first place. Be yourself and try to find ways of accenting your unique qualities.

However, in the end it really is up to your lover whether they want to get back with you or whether the break up becomes permanent. Remember you can never force someone into loving you or to keep on loving you. In fact love is a very powerful emotion and something that one should not be toying with.

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