Tuesday, May 29, 2012

How To Win Back Lost Love

By David Webb


If you have had a break-up, you're probably either trying to work out how it is possible to get over the person, or the easiest way to win back lost love. Neither is very easy, but most individuals fall to either, with only very few able to move on quickly without pining or wishing things could be different. You need to really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You could decide the break up truly isn't a very bad idea.

If you decide to try to get back lost love, the first step is to say sorry. You might think you've done this. You may have said you were sorry many times. But if your ex thought you were saying sorry just to stop a break-up, he might not believe the apology was frank.

If you were the person that did something that you need to say sorry for, apologize again. Now they might believe the apology is genuine, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has finished, you won't be claiming it only to save it but they are going to believe that you actually mean it. (And with a little luck, you do.)

When your ex was the person who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a frank apology from them, pardon them. You can never forget, particularly if your break up was due to cheating, but you must learn to pardon. Forgiving is much more hard for some of us than simply pronouncing, "I excuse you," though, so you might like to read a book or two on absolution and the way to really mean it. If you'd like to win back lost love, this step will assist you in doing it. And it can often help prevent issues in days to come too.

If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or 9 months into the recently patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you haven't forgiven the person for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you may have a difficult time getting past everything. Old injuries would be re-opened and its likely that cruel things would be said.

But if you can actually pardon the individual, then there won't be any need to rehash the past. While you are working on forgiving her or him for whatever occurred to cause the break, forgive them for the break up itself and you can save yourself masses of grief down the line.

Additionally , to get back lost love, show the individual the "you" they fell completely in love with, not the "you" that has been dumped. They were with you as you have certain qualities -kindness, thoughtfulness- not because you're angry, envious or hurt. While you could struggle to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best "you" that you can possibly be and you'll win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.




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