Do you have a sneaky feeling that your boyfriend may dump you? A breakup doesn't have to be inevitable, there are steps you can take. Love is worth preserving, it may be hard at times, but it will be worth it.
Talk a little, listen a lot - open communication is an important first step. Stay in control, don't say anything you'll regret later, but express clearly how you feel. It's important that you give him a chance to make his point and listen, too. Listening and learning is a good way to prevent a breakup. It's foolish not to expect that your boyfriend will look at things a little differently than you do. You each must build bridges to overcome the gaps in your feelings. Be considerate, be willing to forgive his mistakes, ask him to be willing to forgive yours, if any.
Give your boyfriend encouragement and support as you see him work to maintain your relationship. Remember, men feel good about a relationship in which they know someone is backing them up. Getting involved in what your man likes to do, even if it's a bit far out for you, can go a long way to prevent a breakup. Maybe he's a sports fan and you're not, maybe he likes to work on cars but you don't, showing a little interest can go a long way to preventing a breakup. If your guy is feeling down, listen to him and try to understand what's happening. If he wants to go to a sports event, know something about the sport and cheer with him when his team does well. Make your boyfriends dreams become your own, help him realize them by helping to the best of your ability. Good times, bad times - make sure you're there for him.
The third step is a positive one for you and your boyfriend. Look at ways to make yourself more desirable. Maybe you've become too wrapped up in your job and become rather undesirable to be around. Too many little things can add up and make your boyfriend not enjoy being around you. Take a look at yourself, fix what has become broken. Don't go for plastic surgery or liposuction, just make some changes that will make both you and your boyfriend delighted. Get some new, fun things to wear; quit a bad habit, like popping your gum. Do something that brings you joy. Buy a lot of cut flowers and make an arrangement. Paint a wall a groovy color. Go shopping. Cheerful, happy people are easy to love, happiness is a great way to keep from having a breakup.
Quality time, time that is meaningful to both of you, is a necessary final consideration. This time should be just for the two of you, doing things that you both get a lot of benefit from. Times like this can strengthen a relationship, bring two people closer together. It's a good idea to set up a "date night" every week. Or plan a long weekend away. Develop an interest or hobby that is special to both of you. Don't forget that sharing a "roundup" of the day is a way to bring you closer. Time together is like a cement to strengthen your relationship.
Putting into practice the aforementioned tips will definitely curb a breakup. Human beings are not perfect, so you must take the time and a consistent effort to build a human relationship. Willingness to do your part, maybe a little more, is most important in preventing a relationship from breaking up.
Talk a little, listen a lot - open communication is an important first step. Stay in control, don't say anything you'll regret later, but express clearly how you feel. It's important that you give him a chance to make his point and listen, too. Listening and learning is a good way to prevent a breakup. It's foolish not to expect that your boyfriend will look at things a little differently than you do. You each must build bridges to overcome the gaps in your feelings. Be considerate, be willing to forgive his mistakes, ask him to be willing to forgive yours, if any.
Give your boyfriend encouragement and support as you see him work to maintain your relationship. Remember, men feel good about a relationship in which they know someone is backing them up. Getting involved in what your man likes to do, even if it's a bit far out for you, can go a long way to prevent a breakup. Maybe he's a sports fan and you're not, maybe he likes to work on cars but you don't, showing a little interest can go a long way to preventing a breakup. If your guy is feeling down, listen to him and try to understand what's happening. If he wants to go to a sports event, know something about the sport and cheer with him when his team does well. Make your boyfriends dreams become your own, help him realize them by helping to the best of your ability. Good times, bad times - make sure you're there for him.
The third step is a positive one for you and your boyfriend. Look at ways to make yourself more desirable. Maybe you've become too wrapped up in your job and become rather undesirable to be around. Too many little things can add up and make your boyfriend not enjoy being around you. Take a look at yourself, fix what has become broken. Don't go for plastic surgery or liposuction, just make some changes that will make both you and your boyfriend delighted. Get some new, fun things to wear; quit a bad habit, like popping your gum. Do something that brings you joy. Buy a lot of cut flowers and make an arrangement. Paint a wall a groovy color. Go shopping. Cheerful, happy people are easy to love, happiness is a great way to keep from having a breakup.
Quality time, time that is meaningful to both of you, is a necessary final consideration. This time should be just for the two of you, doing things that you both get a lot of benefit from. Times like this can strengthen a relationship, bring two people closer together. It's a good idea to set up a "date night" every week. Or plan a long weekend away. Develop an interest or hobby that is special to both of you. Don't forget that sharing a "roundup" of the day is a way to bring you closer. Time together is like a cement to strengthen your relationship.
Putting into practice the aforementioned tips will definitely curb a breakup. Human beings are not perfect, so you must take the time and a consistent effort to build a human relationship. Willingness to do your part, maybe a little more, is most important in preventing a relationship from breaking up.
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