What do you do during that first contact with a Russian woman online? Well you certainly will need to make sure that you're on a site that has a good reputation. One where they have screened those women who have come onto the site to ensure they are real women.
First off you have to remember that many average guys out there are with beautiful women. So don't look down on yourself, it's more about how you are inside, than what you look like. And when you're looking for a woman, Russian or other, that's the way you need to think of it too.
Some of these sites may even be able to arrange a meeting between you and one of their customers. But if you feel a bit safer by getting to know them first online, by all means that is what you should do. Avoid anyone who asks you for money, even if you've been talking to them for months. This should be a huge warning sign to you that this person could be out for a lot more.
The most important one would be when a girl asks you for money. Unless you've been talking to them for a long time, like a year, you should stop talking to them immediately, and report them to the site. If a site hasn't informed you of this, make sure you do it anyway.
Don't forget that you should also see what year the picture they have posted is from. It's not hard to post on an older picture, unless they are stopped by an agency who knows better. See if the picture is current, and get to know this person before you decide to continue the relationship.
Never try to rush the process too much, speeding up the time that it takes to get to know one another, can mean disaster in a relationship. So talk and get to know the different women that you find attractive, but remember that you need to learn what they are really like too.
Some people will feel bad if they start talking to more than one girl at a time. But you should do this; it will help you get through several more women until you get to the right one for you. Never give too much information about yourself out either.
It's easy to misunderstand what you're feeling as love, and give out too much information, or even send money. But you need to remember that once you've gotten your Russian woman over here, you can spend money on her than. But before that keep information to yourself.
Another thing to do is to ask them what the money is for, and see if it's something that you can possibly buy online and have sent to them. In this manner you are helping them out, but not sending them extra money to do other things with.
Most importantly though is to make sure you really get to know each other before you have her brought over here. Some sites online will arrange for meetings between you and the girls on their site, so check into that as an option.
First off you have to remember that many average guys out there are with beautiful women. So don't look down on yourself, it's more about how you are inside, than what you look like. And when you're looking for a woman, Russian or other, that's the way you need to think of it too.
Some of these sites may even be able to arrange a meeting between you and one of their customers. But if you feel a bit safer by getting to know them first online, by all means that is what you should do. Avoid anyone who asks you for money, even if you've been talking to them for months. This should be a huge warning sign to you that this person could be out for a lot more.
The most important one would be when a girl asks you for money. Unless you've been talking to them for a long time, like a year, you should stop talking to them immediately, and report them to the site. If a site hasn't informed you of this, make sure you do it anyway.
Don't forget that you should also see what year the picture they have posted is from. It's not hard to post on an older picture, unless they are stopped by an agency who knows better. See if the picture is current, and get to know this person before you decide to continue the relationship.
Never try to rush the process too much, speeding up the time that it takes to get to know one another, can mean disaster in a relationship. So talk and get to know the different women that you find attractive, but remember that you need to learn what they are really like too.
Some people will feel bad if they start talking to more than one girl at a time. But you should do this; it will help you get through several more women until you get to the right one for you. Never give too much information about yourself out either.
It's easy to misunderstand what you're feeling as love, and give out too much information, or even send money. But you need to remember that once you've gotten your Russian woman over here, you can spend money on her than. But before that keep information to yourself.
Another thing to do is to ask them what the money is for, and see if it's something that you can possibly buy online and have sent to them. In this manner you are helping them out, but not sending them extra money to do other things with.
Most importantly though is to make sure you really get to know each other before you have her brought over here. Some sites online will arrange for meetings between you and the girls on their site, so check into that as an option.
About the Author:
Mark De Schutter is the owner of a Russian dating service called "Russian Dating Live". This is an internet dating service for men who would wish to get in contact with Russian women who are interested about marriage to foreign men.
