Oh, how many little girls and boys grow up dreaming of their wedding day? Okay, maybe the little boys (and some of the saucier little girls) grow up dreaming of their wedding night but you get the idea. But, alas, like most things from the days of yore, getting hitched just isn't what it used to be. In the modern age, people are looking at old traditions with new eyes and for once, deciding what to do with their lives based on what actually makes sense to them, as opposed to just doing things how they've always been done. One of the institutions to start to take a big hit is marriage.
Me? Just give me the presents and the honeymoon; I couldn't care less about the legalities. I'm not alone, and here's why.
Divorce is expensive and people are realizing that with rates of occurrence being as high as they have been for years, they're better off just skipping the whole messy thing.
People are fickle. And it's increasingly acceptable to acknowledge that, own up to the fact that people and preferences change and to decide that it doesn't make sense to you to legally commit to one person; especially if you know yourself well enough to anticipate changing your mind at some point.
Slowly but surely the law is coming over to that side. Laws across the US are (or will) catching on to the fact that lots of people don't want to be legally married. However, they share children, property or a business and they therefore think they are entitled to the same legal rights as legally married people. The laws aren't the same in all states, so become informed by checking the laws in your state.
Many women don't relish the idea of being ceremoniously passed off from one man to another; not to mention going from having one mans last name to another. Even ladies who don't consider themselves to be hardcore feminists are rejected this antiquated tradition in favor of life choices that they feel are more respectful of their autonomy and independence.
It keeps the relationship genuine. Not to say that married couples dont sincerely want to be together but I've heard many devotedly unmarried couples say that they think the people who feel the need to make their relationship legal and official are exactly the people who probably won't make it in the long run anyway.
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Sure, couples are still getting hitched and popping out kids, but that's not the only combination anymore. Things are more flexible and open-ended; people are taking advantage of that and finding a situation that works best for them and their partner.
Me? Just give me the presents and the honeymoon; I couldn't care less about the legalities. I'm not alone, and here's why.
Divorce is expensive and people are realizing that with rates of occurrence being as high as they have been for years, they're better off just skipping the whole messy thing.
People are fickle. And it's increasingly acceptable to acknowledge that, own up to the fact that people and preferences change and to decide that it doesn't make sense to you to legally commit to one person; especially if you know yourself well enough to anticipate changing your mind at some point.
Slowly but surely the law is coming over to that side. Laws across the US are (or will) catching on to the fact that lots of people don't want to be legally married. However, they share children, property or a business and they therefore think they are entitled to the same legal rights as legally married people. The laws aren't the same in all states, so become informed by checking the laws in your state.
Many women don't relish the idea of being ceremoniously passed off from one man to another; not to mention going from having one mans last name to another. Even ladies who don't consider themselves to be hardcore feminists are rejected this antiquated tradition in favor of life choices that they feel are more respectful of their autonomy and independence.
It keeps the relationship genuine. Not to say that married couples dont sincerely want to be together but I've heard many devotedly unmarried couples say that they think the people who feel the need to make their relationship legal and official are exactly the people who probably won't make it in the long run anyway.
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Sure, couples are still getting hitched and popping out kids, but that's not the only combination anymore. Things are more flexible and open-ended; people are taking advantage of that and finding a situation that works best for them and their partner.
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