Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Simple Psychology For Attracting A Girl

By Jonas Michels

We've all had it happen...

You find a woman physically attractive.

But there's a problem...

She feels no attraction for you.

Can you change how she feels?

Most dating experts will tell you, "If a woman isn't physically attracted to you, move on."

Do not do this. You're cutting yourself short.

Regardless of being her physical type, you can use a few Jedi mind tricks to compel her to feel attraction for you.

You're about to learn one of them that comes from the pick up artist Swinggcat. He calls it a "Tension Loop."

A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months - sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week's show.

Within the context of dating and flirting, this tension becomes sexualized.

One of Swinggcat's favorite Tension Loops is called "Push-Pull."

Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally Push a woman away from you and then emotionally Pull her back in.

Each Push sparks emotional tension and each Pull releases it.

Let's look at an example...

Say to a girl, "You have the most beautiful smile I've seen tonight."

She will say, "Thanks."

Then say, "Actually you have the fourth best smile I've seen tonight. I'm gonna call you number four."

She'll demand, "I wanna be number one."

Say to her, "Wow. You're a fighter. I'm promoting you to number three."

She may complain, "But I want to be number one."

Warn, "If you keep complaining I'm demoting you back down to # 4.

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