Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Tell Tale Signs That Your Ex Wants You Back

By Daniel Dalton

When couples struggle, it can lead to both people deciding to breakup. This is not really a divorce but a stride in between the marriage and divorce which allows for the couple to reassess the relationship and decide whether they want to work at the marriage or go their separate paths.

Once the process starts for a separation, feelings of doubt can occur. These feelings are real. That is why you should really take careful consideration of all the stakeholders involved. It could be family, children and even yourself. This can lead to stopping the separation and starting to rebuild the relationship again.

There are some signs and signals that you can look out for to see if your partner wants to work it out. One healthy sign is if your partner refers you as their marital spouse or partner. Another good sign that your ex wants to work it out is if they start to put an effort to fix or repair the issue that might have caused the breakup.

Reaching Out

Reaching out to you is a sure sign that your ex wants you back. What do I mean by this? If your ex makes a surprise visit, calls or emails you, it's a good sign.

This is a positive sign because human nature prevails when it comes to reacting. When you're marital partner is upset, or mad they usually stay away. You will feel this distance without a doubt. When they attempt to reconnect, it's their way of showing you that they want to be closer.

Seeking Counseling

When your marital partner wants for both of you to go to counseling, it's a good sign that he or she wants to fix your relationship. Even though you may not see it that way, this is a very strong indication that your significant other wants to get back with you.

This shows that the marriage is worth saving because of the resources it takes to seek professional counseling. It also shows an agreement that issues in a relationship, namely a marriage can be resolved. Identifying issue and problems is a major step in dealing with issues and resolving them.

Also if a couple chooses to get help, its shows that the relationship is worth following up on and repairing. This investing will take elbow greases on both sides to find common ground.Seeking help is never easy but it can lead to a rebirth of a happier and healtier relationship.

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