Sunday, October 17, 2010

Getting The Old Girlfriend Back When You've Messed Up

By Chris Lawrence

Break ups are always hard to go through. You often have to deal with a lot of emotions including anger and depression. Even when you have given yourself enough time to move on you may still have feelings for the ex. Sometimes, with the passing of time, you realize you want your old girlfriend back.

If there is going to be any chance of getting an ex back, she might require an apology. Even when you did not do anything dreadful to her you likely did something to turn her off. If you didn't open yourself up then apologize for not letting her know the way that you felt.

Girls like to hear how guys feel. They want you to be honest and clear to them about any emotions you are going through. Sometimes, being able to articulate how much you miss your lady might be enough.

Tell her how things will be different. Even if there were no serious problems in your relationship, something went wrong. Maybe you will need to spend more time together or maybe you need to be willing to give her more space. Jealousy and anger, for example, can be two huge problems in a relationship that sometimes requires outside help. You should make the decision to work on yourself or the relationship will inevitable fail again.

Stay away from the past. Don't bring up things that happened before that upset you or her. She needs to know that even though you have not moved on from her, you have moved on from any bad feelings about what happened.

Sometimes you have to be alone for a while before you should try to get your old girlfriend back. Growing on your own can be the best thing for you. Do not change old habits and flaws just for her; you need to want them for yourself. You do not want to end up in a resentful relationship in the end.

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