Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Do Not Allow HIV To Stop You From HIV Positive Dating

By Val Hopkins


There are women and some men, who find HIV positive dating so difficult, that they do not even contemplate the fact let alone try and date. This is because they do not feel as desirable or even as likeable as HIV negative individuals or those without HIV.

It is vital to bear in mind that people are made up of many components. There is a lot more to someone than just his or her HIV. Everyone is different and we all comprise many differing elements making us unique personalities. You have so much to offer someone as a partner and it is important that you never permit your HIV to steal your dreams of having a relationship or to rob you of your self-esteem in yourself as a good person. If you do not want a single life, then go out and do something about it. Many people are HIV positive dating, these people just got on with their lives and you can too!

Sharing your life with someone is hard work. Opening the door and allowing love to fill your life is scary. There is so much material out there on how to find the perfect relationship, but really it all boils down to two elements; firstly being yourself and secondly going out to find love instead of waiting for it to fall in your lap! It is important just to be you and not to put on a show or pretence regardless. You have lots to offer and if a relationship is not going to work, lying, faking or pretending is not going to make it any better.

Do not think about it too much, just go on out there and begin the search for someone who likes you for who you are. When you are ready to commence a physical relationship, make certain you understand the intricacies on how to best protect your partner by practising safer sex. Additionally, ensure you tell them about your HIV status long before you have sex. This way there will never be any need for you to feel guilty or worried about the fact that you are HIV positive dating.

Feeling embarrassed or even ashamed about your HIV status is a normal feeling. However, allowing this to deter you from seeking a loving relationship will lead to isolation and feelings of loneliness and depression. Should you find yourself in this position and without any idea of how to turn things around, seek some good HIV support immediately. Thousands of others have successfully turned their lives around and come back from HIV depression to finding love in a happy successful HIV relationship. After getting some help, you too will find that your optimism grows and you begin to feel excited rather than anxious about the prospect of HIV positive dating.




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