Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Advice On How To Confidently Chat With Women

By Sarah J Connelly


Talking to women can sometimes be a disaster for many men, especially teenagers. Why wouldn't it turn out to? After all, women are weird creatures that are hard to understand and read. Yet, many other guys can easily slide their way into a woman's eye and start a conversation as easy as tying one's shoelace. No, my friends, it isn't about the looks alone. There are guys who look good, but extremely suck when it comes to starting a conversation with women. In such scenario, a guy with a face like Brad Pitt can choke when a beautiful woman is around.

Men usually fear rejection because they fear that they might simply not look good enough. If that is the case, then the problem is easy. Start having confidence in talking to women by doing ways that will make you feel good about yourself. If you are a bit overweight, then enroll in gym classes, take on different sports, and limit what you eat. In doing so, you are not only achieving confidence, but you are also helping yourself in other aspects too. Your health becomes better, hence you start looking better. And once you look better than before, confidence easily slides in.

No, confidence isn't because you are earning a lot of money, or because you have a Porsche that is sleeping in your garage. It's not about material things and it never will be. Nor will it be about power or fame, or any thing like that. Confidence comes from within. Think about it this way: any guy can easily be himself when he is with his mother, because he is confident enough that his mother will never reject him no matter how much he earns. The same thing goes with any other woman, just talk to her with the confidence that you bring whenever you talk to your mom, or a sister.

Get rid of those insecurities, no matter what they are. Usually, it is about personal appearance, or lack of intelligence, but whatever they are, always remember that identifying them is one step, but it is just half the battle. Do something about these insecurities and do not let them hinder you from mustering enough confidence. if you know that this girl is attracted to the smart guy in class, then simply be the smartest guy in class. Use this insecurity as a motivation for you. I tell you what, once you overcome this insecurity, you will surprisingly find that you will feel more confident about yourself. It will lead you to feeling good and then you will find yourself talking with confidence.

This simple act of identifying and getting rid of these insecurities leads to the very crucial step in talking to any woman in this planet: confidence. It is the key that starts any conversation. It is the driving force that makes the guy "look good" enough even if he is not blessed with Adonis-like features. It does not matter if you were the class nerd or the computer geek, simply know what your insecurities are and do something about them: you will be surprised that you not only helped your way to a woman, but you also helped yourself in the process.




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