It is common to hear people wishing that their partner also become their closest pal. However, it is rare to hear people say they want to date their best friend. Is it really possible to date your best buddy in spite of all the bad things that could happen?
Let's first check out the benefits. You already know your partner. You know what is important to him or her; what he or she has been through; what he or she is capable of; his or her fears; his or her family, work, and relationship history; and others. Additionally, you already know your closest pal's character; temperament; and pet peeves. You have been through good and bad times, and have a naturally deep commitment to each other. You also value each other highly. Finally, you already know how to work as a team through the games and pranks that you played. You have respect, faith in each other, and open communication.
Now, let's see why many people discourage you from getting into a relationship with your best friend. If the relationship does not work out, you do not just lose a date you also lose your best buddy. Moreover, when that happens, you may lose mutual friends as well. Expectations are generally higher in relationships than in friendships. This is one of the things that make that relationship with your closest pal difficult.
A breakup between best pals can, moreover, result in extreme emotional and psychological harm unlike a breakup with another lover. It could also cause severe depression due to the loss of both best friend and lover.
Relationship experts all agree that enduring relationships continuously need involvement, open communication, mutual respect, cooperation, and commitment. Listen when you need to, say sincerely how you feel, and tell your partner what you expect. When making decisions, be considerate to each other. Never forget to show how much you love him or her. Agree on what is important and what is not. And, finally, set career, family, and personal goals together.
Therefore, having a relationship with your best pal is possible and may, in fact, work well. Building on the above aspects that have been previously established during friendship will make the relationship work.
Let's first check out the benefits. You already know your partner. You know what is important to him or her; what he or she has been through; what he or she is capable of; his or her fears; his or her family, work, and relationship history; and others. Additionally, you already know your closest pal's character; temperament; and pet peeves. You have been through good and bad times, and have a naturally deep commitment to each other. You also value each other highly. Finally, you already know how to work as a team through the games and pranks that you played. You have respect, faith in each other, and open communication.
Now, let's see why many people discourage you from getting into a relationship with your best friend. If the relationship does not work out, you do not just lose a date you also lose your best buddy. Moreover, when that happens, you may lose mutual friends as well. Expectations are generally higher in relationships than in friendships. This is one of the things that make that relationship with your closest pal difficult.
A breakup between best pals can, moreover, result in extreme emotional and psychological harm unlike a breakup with another lover. It could also cause severe depression due to the loss of both best friend and lover.
Relationship experts all agree that enduring relationships continuously need involvement, open communication, mutual respect, cooperation, and commitment. Listen when you need to, say sincerely how you feel, and tell your partner what you expect. When making decisions, be considerate to each other. Never forget to show how much you love him or her. Agree on what is important and what is not. And, finally, set career, family, and personal goals together.
Therefore, having a relationship with your best pal is possible and may, in fact, work well. Building on the above aspects that have been previously established during friendship will make the relationship work.
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