Thursday, November 4, 2010

Take Great Friendly Date Today Before They Date Someone Else

By Grace Richards

Are you ready to encourage him to make the jump from dating to a serious commitment? Are you wondering how to accomplish this? In the past, have you turned to friends and family for relationship advice, only to find that their suggestions were not helpful? Have you reached your wit's end? Do not be alarmed or get in a tizzy. Even if you have tried everything in the past with no success, you will be happy to learn that you can employ a five step program, which is designed to get your boyfriend to make a commitment.

First, take some time for yourself because there is no good reason to be with or think about him constantly. Giving time back to yourself will give you your independence back and make you more confident in your relationship with your partner.

If he knows that his position is secure, why would he put in more effort? It isn't right, but, men will take advantage of a woman who is too accommodating. Make sure that you assert yourself, and stand your ground on issue that are important to you.

Be careful, however, that you don't improve his attitude with the methods above only to fall back into weak, over-accommodating habits as soon as you see a little improvement. The secret to this plan is to follow through with the assertive behavior. If he goes back to watching TV or hanging out with his friends as soon as he's gotten what he wants from you, stop giving it to him.

This goes against everything the dating advice gurus will tell you, but there comes a time when enough is enough. If you have had a faithful, intimate relationship for some time and he's still sitting on the fence, just let him know it's time for him to decide. If you have to, tell him you need time to think things over and go stay with your parents or friends for awhile.

If you want to get him to do what you want, these five tactics are the best way to achieve that. this may sound manipulative and self-serving, but that's okay. For a relationship to be successful, there needs to be a feeling of gratification and joy for both partners. There is more wisdom that we can share with you if this method resonates with you. Now that we have shown you what you need to do to make a commitment, continue learning the basics of relationships with us.

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