Need a little lesson in relationship repair 101? Are you asking "can the damage of cheating be undone?" It doesn't matter if you were the person who cheated or the person who was cheated on there are relationships that do survive cheating.
No matter what you hear online it isn't easy to get over or work through cheating but it is possible. Here are a few quick facts that will help you work through cheating and repair some of the damage that has been done by cheating.
1) Apologize for the cheating. You're the one being cheated on? Say sorry still. There will always be something you did that contributed to the affair. But whether you did or not, sincerely apologize it happened. A two-faced act of contrition will never ever heal the relationship, but will do more damage. Understand that both of you are responsible for what has happened and what will happen to the relationship.
2) Make it up. Make improvements in the relationship. These changes do not mean more gifts, more dates, more eat outs. Changes meant adjustments and corrections that will allow you to make things right. It doesn't have to dating every night because that would be costly and unnecessary. If you rarely had time before, making time means being together, and helping each other out even with some household chores. Instead of dating, spend time watching movies at home.
3) Forgive your man. True forgiveness is apparent when you genuinely moved on. Cheating is such a terrible crime. The damage it leaves is tremendous, but in order to salvage the relationship one must be ready to humble himself.
4) Forgive and Forget. Don't blow it off just like nothing happened. Something did happen and you were hurt, your children were hurt and your friends as well. Acknowledge that events did happen and as long as you really want to repair the damage relationship you must first genuinely forgive yourself before forgiving your cheating spouse.
5) Value everything. Don't let the day pass without making a single compliment. Compliment each other. Say thank you whenever you need to. Don't stop yourself from saying something good. Greeting the day with positivism will automatically pull affirmative and encouraging vibes. You need to be honest, and sincere. The pain of betrayal is still around and any exaggerated or corrupt statement can bring back the pain once more.
No matter what you hear online it isn't easy to get over or work through cheating but it is possible. Here are a few quick facts that will help you work through cheating and repair some of the damage that has been done by cheating.
1) Apologize for the cheating. You're the one being cheated on? Say sorry still. There will always be something you did that contributed to the affair. But whether you did or not, sincerely apologize it happened. A two-faced act of contrition will never ever heal the relationship, but will do more damage. Understand that both of you are responsible for what has happened and what will happen to the relationship.
2) Make it up. Make improvements in the relationship. These changes do not mean more gifts, more dates, more eat outs. Changes meant adjustments and corrections that will allow you to make things right. It doesn't have to dating every night because that would be costly and unnecessary. If you rarely had time before, making time means being together, and helping each other out even with some household chores. Instead of dating, spend time watching movies at home.
3) Forgive your man. True forgiveness is apparent when you genuinely moved on. Cheating is such a terrible crime. The damage it leaves is tremendous, but in order to salvage the relationship one must be ready to humble himself.
4) Forgive and Forget. Don't blow it off just like nothing happened. Something did happen and you were hurt, your children were hurt and your friends as well. Acknowledge that events did happen and as long as you really want to repair the damage relationship you must first genuinely forgive yourself before forgiving your cheating spouse.
5) Value everything. Don't let the day pass without making a single compliment. Compliment each other. Say thank you whenever you need to. Don't stop yourself from saying something good. Greeting the day with positivism will automatically pull affirmative and encouraging vibes. You need to be honest, and sincere. The pain of betrayal is still around and any exaggerated or corrupt statement can bring back the pain once more.
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Can the damage of cheating be undone? You better believe it. The only thing is you have to get your ex husband back before you can really begin making progress in the relationship repair department.
