Thursday, April 26, 2012

Friendship after Break up, why not?

By Alex Shant


Nowadays, it's not uncommon for individuals to consider becoming friends after breaking up with their partner. While being friends is completely possible for ex-couples, it isn't something that can be easily done. It's possible that being friends is not something possible between the two due to incompatibility or past problems they encountered as a couple. If you are considering being friends with an ex then you might want to take note that it's not easy. You can't just force someone to accept your friendship, after putting a halt in your happy ending.

If the breakup was done by mutual agreement, it's entirely possible for you and your ex to be friends after breakup. For a specific scenario about this there are people whom realize that they do better as friends rather than as couples. This is usually the case for those who are friends first before dating each other. If this happened to you then you should consider yourself lucky. Since the two of you knew each other outside the relationship, there's a chance that you could still hang out as friends. And bring back the things that you used to have before you became couples.

You could still be friends after a breakup even if you parted ways on a bad note. Although most cases, it comes in a long process that has been testified by time. So let your ex have some alone. Maybe they need time and this would help them with their healing process. So what's the relationship between cutting contact and being friends after breakup? Chances are you are still too emotional that you'll say something regrettable to your ex, completely making friendship hard to do.

Emotionally charged individuals usually find themselves doing something so bad that it can't be repaired even by time.Everything you do after breakup is important and if you do something stupid, your ex would definitely make a point of not being friends with you. You need to go simply if you want to achieve being friends. As much as you want to ease your ex partner's pain, sometimes the best way to help them is to let them go on their own.

Whether you believe it or not, friendship doesn't "just happen" after a break up. If you and your ex went through a tough breakup, it might take longer for you to be friends again. Don't try to reconnect with your ex too fast.You might be over the pain of the breakup but your ex could still be suffering. Ideally, you should just tell your ex that you want to be friends with them and allow them to think about it before they make a decision.Eventually, with time and a lot of introspective thoughts, you can get back to the same point you and your ex was before the relationship even start.




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