Sunday, March 14, 2010

An Introduction To Dating

By Vanessa Cruz

Dating can be defined as a form of courtship undertaken to assess the suitability of two people to become potential partners in an intimate relationship or as spouses. The concept of dating has been there forever in all cultures but in different forms, although dating etiquette has become more relaxed with the changing times. People have changed their social and personal values to a large extent which has impacted every aspect of living. Traditionally every time a man and a woman met , it was expected of the man to pay the bills.The gesture was more chauvinistic than courteous whereas now a days more and more women have become economically independent and the practice of "going Dutch" ( to split he expense) is more acceptable.

With the changing times one has a lot of options to choose their date. There are several networks and professional matchmakers that can arrange for dates for both men and women. Some of the notable ways to date are speed dating, online dating using the internet, mobile dating (latest to join the list) and blind date where people who haven't met ever before are arranged to meet to help them know each other.

When going for your first date with someone it is advised to refer to some quick tips for a great evening.
Confidence: Try to be as confident as you can. Speak with lan and be yourself. Do not display a shy and nervous demeanor through your actions and behavior

-Expectations: Setting expectations is not a bad idea but you need to be realistic. Every individual has flaws and if your date is not up to your expectation do not walk off. Be nice and polite to them

-Past patterns: People often cling to their past patterns while searching for new partners. Remember comparing two individuals is a big no as you may offend your present date.
Here are some rules that come handy for beginners:

-Always remember who you are. Pretensions are a big turn off for the other person. Your date will appreciate you for being genuine and true.

-Be candid in your communication. Try to know as much as you can about your date, their likes and dislikes, but do not initiate any personal question on the first date.

-Enjoy your time out with your date, play games, go for sightseeing, watch a movie or talk over a drink or two. Ensure you do not get drunk and create a scene.
Once you are in an established relation, try your best to nurture it. Buy little gifts for your partner or spend quality time together to develop a strong bond. Many websites and magazines provide great insights about dating and relationship advice that can be very useful. It is important to give your best to the relationship. Remember arguing never helps, avoid any confrontations on small issues, be flexible to adjust with your partner and their needs. You will realize that these little efforts can do wonders to your love life

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