Friday, June 4, 2010

Are Women Looking For Nice Guys?

By Jen Chen

As a woman, I say this; a large number of women don't know what they really want. Of course, most women know what they like and what they don't, this could be often be at variance.

Think about this. "The men, women are attracted to and those who are good for them are not the same."

The female of the species fancies a man who is humorous, loving and thoughtful but finds that this nice guy can only be a buddy. There is no spark.

It most men it has been a pain to be cast in this role of a "nice guy" and one which they can't get rid of.

A man must be sure of attracting a woman and not just being her pal. These two things are poles apart.

How a woman looks at a man is quite different from how a man looks at a woman. When a man looks at a woman, in most cases, he would speculate how good she would be in the sack. Women don't think like that.

For women it is either black or white, they like or they don't. Sometimes women are attracted to a man who is not good looking.

Once they are over, what a man looks like. Women look for some things in a man.

* Security - can the man provide financial or emotional security?

* Connection - is this relationship more than just carnal pleasures? Are your likes and dislikes the same. Do you have similar moral standards and beliefs?

* Attraction - Is he confident and secure about whom he is? Does he take charge when you are out together?

* Intimacy - Is he loving and considerate in bed and out of it? Is he too grasping?

Women find confident men, generally, more attractive and what they actually look for is a man who is steady, reliable and can stand up for her in any situation.

A woman admires a man who is always working for the best in a relationship. Women expect a man take care of them and if need be, even die for them. They look for a man who wants to make her happy all the time.

Women get upset with men who are careless and don't bother to be romantic. At the same time, the guys who are insecure and needy are also, a no no.

Most women are on a lookout for the real man.

A man should know that there is more to a relationship than the initial date. He should know how to continue in this relationship. You will lose the girl you love if you pretend to be someone you are not. The secret to a stable relationship is sincere with yourself and to be honest with your girl.

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