Thursday, September 17, 2009

What Is A Rebound Relationship And Can It Work In Your Favor

By Faith J. Wyse

What is a rebound relationship? Will it work in your favor? A rebound relationship is when you or your ex begin to see someone else just to get over the ache of a past relationship or a breakup.

Is the love of your life in a rebound relationship and at this time you hope to get back together with them even if you have broken up?

The reason for most rebound relationships is to get over a love that you feel that you have lost. It keeps you from focusing on the pain and emotions caused by a breakup. It actually makes getting over a real love a tiny bit simpler.

So the point is that if you want your ex back and he/she is in a rebound relationship, it is just to get over you, so you have a very real chance of getting your ex back if that is what you actually want.

Why you broke up doesn't really matter now. Even if it was their fault or yours that's no longer an problem. It will not even make a difference who decided to breakup with who but what does matter now is that you realize that you are really in love with your ex.

When your ex is in a rebound relationship to get over you, you have the best chance of saving your relationship since you know that it truly is true love.

Many rebound relationships are based on what was wrong in the past relationship. So, if you're strong willed then your ex is almost certainly seeing somebody new who is a push over. If you happen to be a push over then your ex may be seeing someone new who is actually strong but.....

If your ex is seeing somebody else completely opposite of you then he/she is only trying to stop thinking about about you. Nonetheless, their main concentration will be that they are attempting to get over you despite the fact that they are with the new person.

This gives you a chance to see what your ex actually wants and to find out what may have been missing in your relationship. Does your ex need you to be more receptive or more strong. Whatever the case is you can take this time to work on yourself while still working on getting back together.

Give your ex time in the new relationship because if it actually is a rebound and you are the one he/she really wants, they will begin to see everything they don't like in the new partner and will begin to really miss you and appreciate you.

You need to let them see for themselves what is good in your relationship so do not go running back. Let your ex start to miss all that is good in your relationship and when he/she does come back to you, be grateful and be the person that you sought to be while they were gone. You don't need to kiss .... but you will need to be there.

Just a few specifics when you want to get your ex back from a rebound relationship:

Let your ex be the one to sort out that you are the love of their life.

By no means over apologize. Say you are sorry if you did something wrong and then move on.

Don't make empty promises that you will be someone different. Be who you are because that is the person they fell in love with.

Don't try to place blame or to say that it wasn't your fault. Either way, if you want to get your ex back, it's just a waste of time and energy. Get over it.

Finally, do not ever beg or plead for your ex to take you back. If it really is love, you will get back together if you take the right steps.

Remember that a rebound relationship is a sign that your ex still loves you and you can make it work and get them back. Be patient and discover the steps it takes to make a relationship work.

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