Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Is That Dreamy Guy For Me?

By Alan Bentley

So, here is the agonizing question that you are asking yourself. You are sitting alone in your favorite watering hole on a Friday evening after work and across the other side of the room is this totally dreamy guy. Is it your imagination or is he casting the odd glance or two in your direction as well? This is the million-dollar question, is he interested in you at all and what will happen if you pluck up the courage that you know you have, deep down within you and do something about it?

Society tells us that a man may approach a woman under pretty much any kind of situation to initiate a conversation. It's unheard of for a girl to do this conversely, even though we are supposed to live in the liberated society. So what happens when you come across a dreamy guy? As a girl, do you have to be stealthy or creative?

Unless you are super confident, many of us tend to put ourselves down a little and wonder whether we would be of interest to the typical dreamy guy who is in your thoughts. You tend to think that all the good-looking men are accounted for and that there are a variety of other girls lining up to fight for his attention. This is when you have to gather all your confidence about you and take action!

Dreamy guys are interested in you whether you happen to look like Miss USA or not. Beauty is only skin deep and there is a lot more to dating than this. Hopefully there will be much more to him than just good looks and personality to match.

It can be very difficult to take the first few steps in dating sometimes, but it's okay to be creative. Just don't come across as if you are desperate in any way and seeking any type of interaction with this guy. He might well be thinking that if you bring your existence to his attention, everything will go smoothly from there!

You had better come to a super quick conclusion if you are thinking about whether you should date the dreamy guy you have your eye on. If he happens to say yes, you must have all your self-confidence about you as you know there will be other potential temptations around in the future. Without this level of confidence in yourself, any future relationship could be in danger.

Underneath the super confident and attractive exterior, men are still looking for stability and a partner, just as you are. The longer that you worry about rejection the less likely you will be able to take action and to go over and talk to the dreamy guy right now. When people say -- "what's the worst that could happen," -- this is a great saying. After all, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

Many people love the game of "people watching." This is a great deal of fun if you are in a busy location such as an airport or a crowded mall. Just look at the dreamy guy coming towards you right now, where has he been all his life and where is he going? You never know, he might be headed right for you...

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