Saturday, November 28, 2009

Relationships : Demonstrating Your Affection

By Mark Walters

Some people are born romantics and, when you see such people effortlessly being romantic and loving, it's common to wonder why you can't be like that with your own partner. The fact is though, that very few people are naturally romantic, it is rather a result of practice on their behalf. Rather than just expecting romance to happen, as if by magic, they have spent time learning what it takes to be romantic. This is something which you can learn and practice too.

You first need to recognize the whole point of being romantic, which is to make your partner feel cared for and special. Then, you need to understand that plenty of little, but thoughtful, gestures on a regular basis is better than the occasional, large gesture. Well, in an ideal world, you would implement both approaches but, start small and regularly first, and then add in grander gestures as added surprises.

If you are not entirely sure what your partner wants, you may need to try different things at first. If you are short on ideas for ways to demonstrate your affection, try some of the following suggestions:

-Send a text message saying how much you love them -Hand write a letter and post it to them -Send a romantic email and attach your favorite picture of the two of you -Give compliments each and every time you see each other -Always kiss them before you leave and when you return -Unexpectedly kiss them -Make hugs a regular thing -Hold your partners when you are out together -Leave love notes lying around -Call your partner just to say "Hi" -Make cooking and serving candlelit dinners a regular occurrence -Have intimate lunches together -Send your partner flowers -Write a romantic poem and read it to your partner -Write down a list of all the reasons you love your partner and show it to them -Learn some massage techniques to use on your partner -Call last thing at night to wish them sweet dreams

There are of course other things that you could do, but those ideas listed above are more than enough, so long as you follow them through and put your heart into them. By implementing even a few of them, your partner will be in no doubt as to how your feelings towards them. Also, remember, that affection returns affection, so, by starting to be affectionate and romantic yourself, your partner will soon starting responding to you in the same way. Soon enough, you will be romantic bliss!

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