Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Healing A Broken Heart And Forgetting About The Relationship

By Nikki Frost

When healing a broken heart, you need to accept that change in our relationships and in our lives is as inevitable as the sun rising in the morning and setting in the evening. Most of us go through one or several breakups or lose our partner during our lifetime.

A breakup can be very painful, so here are 4 steps to healing a broken heart and embracing the change in your life.

1- Come to terms with Realities.

Sometimes when big events happen in our lives, in healing a broken heart we prefer to avoid the truth and deny that anything has happened, instead of accepting the changes.

Susan resisted the idea of divorce, and would do anything to keep her marriage together. Her husband, unfortunately, who didn't believe in therapy, and was tired of the constant therapy, was in favor of a divorce. Instead of breaking away from a partner who did not believe in the bond of marriage with her, Susan foolishly held on to it.

I am not to be misunderstood that I am a staunch advocate for break-up. Actually, I am a great believer in faith and rekindling lost love. What I'm trying to say is that to mend a broken heart, Susan was denying the change around her, instead of accepting that her marriage was over.

2. Learn from what happened

In order to heal your broken heart, you will need to view every relationship and breakup as an experience to be learned from. We should take lesson from other's experiences that frequently people get separated from their lover just for not being in touch and if any such thing happens we should be prepared to accept the truth. Following these steps will either win your ex back and or help you be a better person for your next partner.

3. Be in gratitude for what was

When you are grateful for everything that happens to you, it makes you capable of healing a broken heart. Remember that you have been shaped by friends, family, ex- lovers, and all prior experiences.

A number of people have learned that showing gratitude helped in healing a broken heart after a dramatic breakup changed their lives.

4 - Watch this and decide where you want to be in the future.

Whether you are in an unhappy relationship and want to make it work, or going through a breakup, you need to take the time to decide what you really want in life. Ask yourself: "What is one small step I can take now that will help me get to where I want to be?" Once you know what that step is, do it and you will find it easier in healing a broken heart and moving towards a brighter future.

Everybody goes through drastic change in their lives, including breakups. Hopefully these steps will help you in healing a broken heart and opening up to a world of endless love and possibilities.

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