Friday, October 23, 2009

Dating Dutch Style

By Becky Jones

Going Dutch means that both daters pay for themselves when they go out on a date. This system of dating is frequently the best kind, especially when both parties are new to each other, self-sufficient, or just good friends, because then neither person ends up feeling grateful to the other. Many people like to go Dutch because they are not comfortable with someone else paying for them. This is common with women who are broadminded or liberated in their philosophy or who just don't like to be a financial millstone to anyone.

Therefore, it is also common if finances are low for both parties. Both people will divide the costs of dinner and any other activities selected to do on the date. Another facet of going Dutch is that the daters might also choose to meet at the locality by separate taxi or drive themselves so that the other person is not liable for their transport.

Going Dutch can create an enormously informal ambiance, which many people are pleased with when a relationship is new. After all, in these conditions no one is incumbent on anyone and each can come or go as they please if the date turns sour.

Some individuals just are not comfortable with someone else paying for anything for them until they get to know them better. In addition, they don?t want to think as if they owe them for anything later.

Dating Dutch Style allows your date to go out in a relaxed way without the sense of ?owing? anyone anything. In addition, many women realize the expenses associated with dating and don?t consider it is fair that the guy should pay for everything, particularly if they go to an exclusive restaurant and do something even more expensive later.

Going Dutch is common for people who are not comfortable with someone else paying for them. There are many generous and self-reliant women who are very proud and who prefer to pay their own way too. This generates a comfortable atmosphere because no one feels like they are indebted to anyone for anything later.

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