Thursday, June 9, 2011

The First Thing To Ask Yourself Before Trying To Save Your Relationship

By Hendryl Benyt


I know you are working very hard in an attempt to get back together with your ex. You are probably feeling rather worried as well but there is no need to worry too much. Getting an ex back is still possible as long as you have a plan that really works. Nonetheless, you still want to ask yourself one question first.

Is my relationship really worth saving? Should I try to get back together with my ex?

If you are not too sure, here are some guidelines that may be able to help you make a good decision.

1) Be honest with yourself. Do you think your friends and family members like your ex?

I know some of you may not think this is the most important thing. Ultimately, this is a relationship between the 2 of you. So, as long as you love him/her, isn't that enough.

Here is my explanation. Many times, people cannot see their own situation very clearly. But you can usually see other people's situation more clearly. When most of your loved ones does not like your ex, you probably have to ask yourself why. Is this relationship really worth your time?

2) Does your ex treat you nicely or take you for granted?

First, you want to ask yourself whether your ex abused you before. If he is a serial abuser, then it is obvious that this relationship should not be saved in the first place. In fact, to protect yourself from any harm, you should leave the relationship as soon as possible.

Please take note that abuse is not only limited to the physical ones. Verbal abuse can hurt as well. If your ex is putting you down every single moment and is trying to hurt your self esteem, then it is best that you leave this relationship for your own good.

You do not want to let your ex damage your self esteem.

3) Does your ex cheat on you all the time?

Cheating should never exists in a healthy relationship, let alone repeated cheating. If your ex has only cheated on you once, maybe there is a reason for you to forgive him or her. But if your ex keeps on cheating on you, then you have to ask yourself whether it is time to leave the relationship for good.




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