Thursday, August 13, 2009

I Dumped My Boyfriend But Now I Want Him Back

By Andyl Bergerl

You are dating this hot guy which you are in love with but what if one day, there was something in him that you do not like and you just dumped him because of that little thing you noticed. But did you really try to dig deep on the reason why you decided to dump your boyfriend?

There are things that a person will notice on their loved ones after spending some time with them. Things like traits and mannerisms come out naturally but now these traits and mannerisms bother you. It could be the way he slices his food, the way he behaves in situations and could even be a new haircut. These are little issues that drove you to breakup with him but after doing so, you realize your fault and then try to patch things up and all the things you have done to get him back failed. What needs to be done next?

Well, have you tried just leaving him alone for a while? Because pretty much you've hurt his feelings big time and he's doubtless feeling humiliated. If you've been calling him 24/7 and he's just not picking up, then that's a clear indication that he needs you to leave him alone.

So instead of bombarding him with text messages and calls, give him some space and take a look at the real hidden reasons that might have caused you to wake up one morning with a dumped boyfriend.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

Usually anyone who tries to manipulate someone to this extreme, has deep rooted self-esteem issues that they should really think about working out. Your self-esteem is really the inner you. If you are suffering from low self-esteem then the little voice in your head often shouts negativity at you and tells you that you are just not good enough. Take the time to address this and you will be far happier.

To get your boyfriend back, you must change some things in you first. No rational minded guys want to be with someone that is uncontrollable and unreasonable. So before making any decision, you better be sure of the reasons behind it.

Instead of jumping to conclusions and then dump your boyfriend immediately, try sitting down with him and talk about your issues with the relationship. Doing it that way will make you more mature and your boyfriend will see that you are a rational person.

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