Wednesday, September 16, 2009

What Are Ways To Get My Ex Back

By Cherry Wilkinson

When you break up with someone you love, you go through lots of agonizing feelings. You feel unhappy, depressed and hurt, and you miss them. "What should I do to get my ex back?" becomes a question you consistently ask.

There are many websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses designed to reply to the query, what should I do to get my ex back? But commonsense can truly contribute after a split. And common pleasantness can go long way toward healing your relationship.

If you're preoccupied with your lost relationship, wondering "what should I do to get my ex back?" then follow this straightforward recommendation. You will give yourself the best chance of getting back together with that special somebody.

Don't play games. This is important, but unfortunately many people resort to this during breakups as it gives them a feeling of power. If you can make the other person think that you don't care, or you care more than you actually do, you are manipulating them and that will feel great. But it will not feel great for long.

Eventually you will understand that lying and tricking the other person isn't a good feeling. And anything good that happens because of it will always be sullied a little thanks to the lie.

Some people play games where they pretend to be dating someone else, or they pretend to be in love with some other person. This is a ploy to make the ex jealous. While it does work now and then, other times it makes the breakup permanent because it backfires.

Your ex could be so envious at the concept of you being with someone else that they want you back. Or they could decide that since you moved on so speedily, you do not truly care about them any way. You have any of knowing which way this ploy will work till it's too late.

Don't be mean. This holds true in any situation or any relationship, but often the hate around a breakup makes us act more viciously than we normally might. Even if you are hurt, the fact that you wish to know, 'What should I do to get my ex back?" shows that you are prepared to excuse that person. If you couldn't, you wouldn't want your ex back, you'd be satisfied it was over.

Now, think about how you have been acting. If you were your ex, would you look forward to spending time with you or speaking to you? Or would you fear each time? Do you roar and nag? Even if you feel like raising all kinds of debates, simply don't. Work very hard at controlling your anger and hurt, and being an individual they can miss.

"What should I do to get my ex back?" Be on your best behavior and make your ex remember what drew them to you in the first place. They'll remember your good points and will miss them. Then you can have a better chance of having the ability to get back along with your ex.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the first steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And overtly these aren't my original concepts. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we're more in love than ever.

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