Tuesday, August 18, 2009

What If I Dumped My Boyfriend But I Regret My Decision?

By Andyl Bergerl

One day you are dating your boyfriend who you love so much but then you notice some things in your bf that you have not noticed before. This something eventually drove you to conclusions that you may not like him anymore. But if you asked yourself, was it reasonable to break up with him just because of that small something?

Perhaps you've told yourself that it was the way he ate his food? Or the way he laughed or perhaps even something as earth shattering as the way that he walked? Whatever it was that made you turn around and end up with a dumped boyfriend, boy are you regretting it now because now, you want him back. But here's the thing he wants nothing to do with you and everything that you've tried so far to get him back, as failed.

To ask you, did you try leaving you ex boyfriend some time alone? I am certain that you did hurt his pride and feelings and may have humiliated him. If you have been trying to call him for hours and when he does not pick up his phone, then that is surely a sign that you must be giving him some space.

It is definitely recommended that you stop sending him several text messages every minute and try to stop yourself from picking up the phone to call him. Give your bf sufficient time to think about things and let him find reasonable motives why you just scrapped him without any warning signs.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

An individual who manipulates someones feelings can be suffering from confidence issues. A person with low self esteem must fight this tendency to manipulate someones feelings to assure something. You must change it because self confidence defines who you are and how you carry things. There will be times that you may think something negative about yourself so you must contest it. Look for ways to address the real problem and do not pin it to someone else.

You have to change first before you can present yourself again to your boyfriend. No guy wants to spend his time around someone that is controlling and a girlfriend that is out of control. In the future, try to be very sure before making any decisions and find reasons that are reasonable in doing so.

Instead of jumping to conclusions and then dump your boyfriend immediately, try sitting down with him and talk about your issues with the relationship. Doing it that way will make you more mature and your boyfriend will see that you are a rational person.

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