When we put conditions on love, is it really love at all? Isn't something less than unconditional love only a nice arrangement, a pleasant situation dependent upon specific conditions? When we make love conditional, we are stopping short of achieving love in its truest form.
Isn't to love to completely accept everything about the person? After all, are we in love with a person or a collection of behaviors? Do we love the situation we are in with that person or the core of that person and how it fits with our own core? And from the moment we proclaim love for a person, is it really ever possible to proclaim an ending to that love?
Most people do show unconditional love to their children. We might discard lovers or spouses, but never children. Yet that fact is interesting because romantic love asks for all of us while parenthood requires only parts of us.
These days, people so easily sneer at the traditional understanding of marriage vows. "For better or for worse, for richer or poorer, until death do we part" seems quaint these days. We think it is perfectly acceptable to walk away from a relationship when things "don't work out." But, with this attitude, we will never love in the truest sense because love cannot be considered just an arrangement. Love is the combining of two souls so that they become one and cannot be separated!
When two people allow themselves the bliss of unconditional love, they discover something so real and secure that love can finally approached and enjoyed without fear. They can find freedom, discuss anything, or pursue anything together. This form of love creates a positive and never-ending feedback loop. This kind of love is a spiral where there is no tug-of-war between two beings but there is, in its place, a never-ending source of newness and mutual growth.
Isn't to love to completely accept everything about the person? After all, are we in love with a person or a collection of behaviors? Do we love the situation we are in with that person or the core of that person and how it fits with our own core? And from the moment we proclaim love for a person, is it really ever possible to proclaim an ending to that love?
Most people do show unconditional love to their children. We might discard lovers or spouses, but never children. Yet that fact is interesting because romantic love asks for all of us while parenthood requires only parts of us.
These days, people so easily sneer at the traditional understanding of marriage vows. "For better or for worse, for richer or poorer, until death do we part" seems quaint these days. We think it is perfectly acceptable to walk away from a relationship when things "don't work out." But, with this attitude, we will never love in the truest sense because love cannot be considered just an arrangement. Love is the combining of two souls so that they become one and cannot be separated!
When two people allow themselves the bliss of unconditional love, they discover something so real and secure that love can finally approached and enjoyed without fear. They can find freedom, discuss anything, or pursue anything together. This form of love creates a positive and never-ending feedback loop. This kind of love is a spiral where there is no tug-of-war between two beings but there is, in its place, a never-ending source of newness and mutual growth.
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