Saturday, October 30, 2010

Long Distance Relationships With Men

By Dicky Rejaka

He has just left the city, and your short time together, is over for a good while. Thoughts of spending the weekend together keep replaying in your head, and images of his warm smile and warmth as he holds you in his arms flood every fiber of your being. You can feel his presence so strongly, that it feels as though he continues. All the incredible feelings you experienced together, will be there forever, the intimacy, passion and joy will forever remain in your heart.

These pleasant thoughts quickly vanish as it becomes clear that he is actually gone, back to his home, you may have to spend most of your days alone thinking about him, and pondering how long it's going to be until you meet again. And like so many long distance romances, each encounter only lasts for brief periods.

The Pain of Love-

A long distance relationship can be extremely painful and emotionally unstable. Moments with him are magical, and then to be without him is unbearably painful. Many times you wonder why you allow yourself to encounter the massive pain, but then as you meet him upon arrival at the airport terminal, you are filled with unspeakable joy and goose bumps. There isn't any greater feeling on earth! You are victim to a most unfortunate dichotomy of pleasure/pain.

In your long distance relationship, this will continue to be on. So what is the easiest way you can deal with this ongoing roller coaster of emotions?

The easiest way is to change how you perceive the whole situation. It's the only way. Understand why you've got a long distance romance. His profession, your family, his personal commitments, your situation, etc. If living in his city is better for his financial career, or your health, etc. Then there are many good reasons why here is the case.

Don't Occupy Yourself with the Pain-

If you understand why things are how they are between you, then you shouldn't have to feel sad and lonely about it. It could be difficult sometimes to manage things, but you need to keep rationalizing the purpose behind things. It is the only method to keep a clear mind, and not get over emotional about the whole situation.

It's either rationalize and make sense of the necessary separation between the both of you, or get up to date in emotional blunders that make your heart ache every day until you see him again. You'll have plenty of opportunity to go to your man on the phone or on Skycap; you can view his face and hear his voice.

Focus on being happy with what you have with this person. Because you take a look at them is a rare occasion you will want to be thankful for. For the moment, have something to smile about, like your health or just living life.

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