Sunday, February 20, 2011

Women Dating After Divorce - Get Back In The Dating Game

By Suzy Weiss


Women dating after divorce can seem extremely awkward for many who are coming to recognize this new way of life. Because they have been used to another type of life, it can be difficult and confusing. These women very often feel depressed and lonely. It can often be feelings similar to those in which a spouse dies. There are different types of stages, five in fact, that usually take place soon after. Each one has its place and it can be different for each person. These stages include denial, resentment, anger, and acceptance. When each one has been experienced, and only then can they begin to move on.

Quite often, friends and family push them to start dating again. Unfortunately, they aren't ready until all these above stages are experienced. If the feelings for the ex-husband have not subsided, it can cause even more problems. Psychologically and emotionally, they are left with levels of low self-esteem, feeling unwanted with respects to other men.

At the same time, they do want to move on so that they aren't left alone for the rest of their lives. This often puts them in situations where they are easily taken advantage of, especially by other married men looking for fun.

Because of this, they are left to believe that their new love interest will prosper and that the married men will join them once and for all. Of course, for this to occur, it would take a miracle as this is truly uncommon. So, these vulnerable women wait time and again for visits or phone calls that often don't happen.

This is particularly the case if the children and the father enjoy a loving relationship. The divorced women should always encourage good relationships between children and their fathers. A positive co parenting relationship is possible despite any personal differences that exist between the men and women.

The children should always be first an foremost in the minds of the parents who should share responsibilities with a positive attitude toward the parenting of their children. While the children are seeing their fathers then the women have time enough to meet with other men.

However, it's important that you stay focused and take your time. Very often, men become uninterested in women who rush things, making them run to the nearest exit. That's because we are different, women want lifetime partners and quick. On the other hand, men prefer to take it slow.

Dating a number of women simultaneously is easy for many men. So, if you want things to work, don't rush things, slow them down. Otherwise, your relationship can come to an end and very quickly.




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