Sunday, March 6, 2011

Putting Back The Pieces After Your Break up

By Daniel Dalton


Would you like to know how to fix your relationship?

Whenever a relationship ends or is near its end, the shock and pain of being single again can be tremendous. It's to no surprise that there are tons of advice and information on how to cope with breaking up, after being dumped. One of the first things you need to consider is if it's really worth your time and effort to try and attempt to fix your past relationship. Sometimes love cannot conquer all and all the wounds of your previous relationship may be too great to brush aside.

Time Is On Your Side

You need to have at least a month or so pass, before you can consider getting back together with your ex. One of the most common mistakes most people do after a break up is to pick up the phone and immediately call their ex for a second chance. This is a natural reaction to try and patch things up, but if you were dumped, your emotions are going haywire. Perhaps, you and your ex had a big argument or are angry at one another when you last spoke. The best advice is to have your emotions in check and have your panic feelings subside. You will also avoid the possibility of pleading or acting like a fool.

If you have experienced the pain of a breakup before, you know that the best thing for you right now is to start focusing on yourself. This is essential for the road to recovery. Don't think that's it's selfish to start living for your self, but for your own true happiness you need to do this. While you are starting to get things together, you need to think about why, once, and who would really bring you happiness in this life. You have to weigh all the good times and the bad. No relationship is perfect. Another good way to start recovering, is to start socializing with new people and getting together with old friends. This has been tried time and time again and it's the best way to take control of your life. You could also try to give yourself a new look for the new you.

Making Contact

If after a few months you feel strongly about your ex, you may start considering how to contact them. The most common and best way to contact them is through a simple phone call. If you don't get a chance to talk to your ex, just leave a simple voice mail. Do not sound nervous or desperate. You need to keep things very casual. Just wait for their response. If they do not call you back, then you'll just have to keep on waiting. DO NOT CALL THEM AGAIN. If and when they call you back, you can make a natural suggestion to maybe catch up over a cup of coffee. If they agree and you two meet, be open and try to listen to what they have to say to you. Also you need to open your ears and be reserved with your comments.

Getting back your ex is easier said than done. A lot of the tips are counter intuitive and can be completely absurd. The only way to get your facts back is to take action. Part of this success can be relied on by giving space but he adds having honest and truthful communication.




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