Sunday, May 1, 2011

What to Avoid Doing When Looking for Love Online

By Jane A. Sanders


If you are one of the many people trying to look for love online, you must avoid doing a few things that will only make it harder for you to find your partner. There are many benefits in finding love online, but there is no foolproof way of finding out if the person you meet is the right one for you. If you avoid doing some of these things mentioned in the article, you will get greater chances in meeting the person that is right for you.

The first thing to avoid is expecting too much. You might have sent several messages to different people and expect that they'd quickly reply to your messages. And if you don't receive any, you'd feel down and discouraged. You shouldn't expect too much when it comes to this thing as there is just 10% reply rate in online dating websites and the rate is higher with women. Just consider yourself lucky if you get a reply and take the opportunity.

When you are looking for love online, never go with a bare profile. You should also never put things that do not make a lot of sense as well. If you are being asked to describe yourself, never put in vague statements like 'I do not know' and 'Just message me to find out'. If another member sees your profile and reads these responses, they will not be very interested and will probably just seek another member.

Another thing to avoid when finding love online is initiate sexual conversations after getting a few replies. A few replies don't mean that the person is into you and is attracted to you. And by making a conversation sexual, you will just make an impression that you are a pervert and you are not worth their time. Not to mention, you can come off as rude and disrespectful.

Do not lie. Honesty is always good and you should be honest when creating your profile and having conversations with people. You do not want to make a person believe that you are someone else and have him or her like you for it. Also, you do not want to get lied to as well. This will just break the trust between you when you are found to be lying and will just embarrass yourself. A good foundation when finding love online is honesty.

Do not also talk about your past relationships or your exes when you are having a conversation with a potential partner. You will not be able to find love online if you show that you are not over with your previous partner, especially if you show bitterness or anger. No one will be interested in dating you if you show this. Also, do not make any general comments about the opposite sex if you are still angry with your ex. This will make your date turned off.

And last of all, never forget to be safe and secure at all times. This goes to say that you shouldn't give out personal information about yourself. If you are meeting someone, always meet in a public place and a place you are familiar with. Moreover, if you are able to avoid these things from happening, then you have a big chance of finding your true love online.




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