Having Practical Expectations
Many marriages these days have one individual with high expectations for their spouse. Some high expectations are so high that you are setting your spouse up to fail. These are some common high expectations that many individuals have for their other half or relationship.
-In a successful relationship, there is no conflicts whatsoever
-My better half will know exactly what's on my mind without me having to point out anything
-Our relationship will forever be exciting, romantic, and full of excitment (just like in the movies)
-My better half will always cook me dinner when I return home from work
-My partner will always do things that will please me
-My spouse will always wish to spend every waking moment with me
These are some common marriage expectations that people frequently make in long term relationship. Do any of these appear practical? Don't forget that by having high expectations for your other half, you are setting them up to fail. No one is perfect. With that said there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Committed relationships takes tough work and effort to keep the love alive in your relationship. Reevaluate your expectations with your spouse. Are they also high? Are they realistically possible? If this is the case your irrational expectations might be damaging your relationship.
Can You Make Compromises?
Do you and your spouse make compromises? Being able to make compromises is important when it comes to a good relationships. Your spouse can't always be the one bending backwards for you without you giving anything in return. This could mean anything from who's turn it is to choose the movie, pick the toppings on the pizza to sacrificing your time to do your spouse's best liked pastimes. Successful couples make sacrifices for each other because they love one another. Ensure that each individual in a marriage is making compromises.
Do You Help Your Partner Foster Their Self-Esteem?
Some people may not realize how unsupportive they're until it's too late. Does your other half have a dream or a goal and you're not being supportive? There's nothing more important for a husband or a woman to have their love one by their side when they are going through a new and scary part in their life. Do you cheer your spouse on when he or she needs it the most? Your support will help your spouse build confidence and self-esteem. Watching out for each other's general well-being is so crucial when it comes having a successful relationship.
If you and your partner have been happily married for quite a long time, it's not uncommon to see couples who's hit a speed bump in their relationship. Marriage has it's highs and lows (and occasionally plateaus.) It's how you respond that is so vital to making it work. Keep these things discussed above in mind if you are going through a tough patch in your relationship. It could actually save your marriage.
Many marriages these days have one individual with high expectations for their spouse. Some high expectations are so high that you are setting your spouse up to fail. These are some common high expectations that many individuals have for their other half or relationship.
-In a successful relationship, there is no conflicts whatsoever
-My better half will know exactly what's on my mind without me having to point out anything
-Our relationship will forever be exciting, romantic, and full of excitment (just like in the movies)
-My better half will always cook me dinner when I return home from work
-My partner will always do things that will please me
-My spouse will always wish to spend every waking moment with me
These are some common marriage expectations that people frequently make in long term relationship. Do any of these appear practical? Don't forget that by having high expectations for your other half, you are setting them up to fail. No one is perfect. With that said there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Committed relationships takes tough work and effort to keep the love alive in your relationship. Reevaluate your expectations with your spouse. Are they also high? Are they realistically possible? If this is the case your irrational expectations might be damaging your relationship.
Can You Make Compromises?
Do you and your spouse make compromises? Being able to make compromises is important when it comes to a good relationships. Your spouse can't always be the one bending backwards for you without you giving anything in return. This could mean anything from who's turn it is to choose the movie, pick the toppings on the pizza to sacrificing your time to do your spouse's best liked pastimes. Successful couples make sacrifices for each other because they love one another. Ensure that each individual in a marriage is making compromises.
Do You Help Your Partner Foster Their Self-Esteem?
Some people may not realize how unsupportive they're until it's too late. Does your other half have a dream or a goal and you're not being supportive? There's nothing more important for a husband or a woman to have their love one by their side when they are going through a new and scary part in their life. Do you cheer your spouse on when he or she needs it the most? Your support will help your spouse build confidence and self-esteem. Watching out for each other's general well-being is so crucial when it comes having a successful relationship.
If you and your partner have been happily married for quite a long time, it's not uncommon to see couples who's hit a speed bump in their relationship. Marriage has it's highs and lows (and occasionally plateaus.) It's how you respond that is so vital to making it work. Keep these things discussed above in mind if you are going through a tough patch in your relationship. It could actually save your marriage.
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