Ah, what to write in an online dating profile, it's the million dollar question, isn't it? I used to really be clueless about what to include, but through years of trial and error I really narrowed it down to some key things. In this article I want to give you some examples of what types of things to include in your online dating profile.
I think everyone can agree that you need to stand out from the thousands of other guys trying to get women to respond to them. The question though, is what is the best way to do that? "Hi, I'm Bob, I like staring at women from across the room, and occasionally stalking them" will stand out, but I don't think Bob's inbox will blowing up any time soon.
That's why it's important to point out that you must stand out in a positive way. If you do this and say some memorable stuff, you can show women you are a real person and not just a collection of words on a screen. By following the suggestions below, you can also be someone she responds to and eventually agrees to meet.
So without further ado, let's get into some examples of what you want in your online dating profile.
Passions
You will get many more responses if you include something your passionate about in your dating profile. As long as it's not something generally considered really weird, like collecting Star Wars figures, it will make your profile much more exciting. Thus making it more likely to catch a woman's eye, or convince her to respond to your email.
Communicate The Right Things
You want to come across to women that you have sense of humor and a life full of things that you care about. It's also key to show you are confident and well adjusted.
Now, anyone can think of a list of great characteristics and write it in a dating profile, but if it really shines through by the way you write your profile it will be much more effective. For example, stating clearly why you're on the dating website, what you're about and what you're looking for will make you appear confident. So will leaving out any wishy-washy or insecure comments like "I don't know what to write on this thing". The effect of confident writing will be much better than simply stating you're confident.
Write In A More Descriptive Way
If you ever browse through men's dating profiles, (and seriously, I recommend doing it to know what the competition is doing), you'll soon feel your head start to involuntarily drop toward your chest as you desperately fight off your body's desire to nap. That's because the typical vague list of likes and attributes is excruciatingly boring to read. What's much better is to take one or two things that really show your personality, and get into more detail about it.
If you're a bit of a chef you can describe some of the things you've cooked recently or what you'd like to make soon.
Being more detailed will give a woman an actual vision of who you could really be, which will definitely stand out among the crowd. You don't even have to do that much with the details to really stand out, because 95% of men's profiles are about as boring as a scientific journal article.
Keep It Playful
I don't mean here that you have to be Mr. Jokester through your whole profile, just nothing overly serious.
Imagine a real life meeting where a woman busts out her feelings on the state of the economy after saying hello. You may care to discuss the topic, but not in that moment.
This is that initial communication. It's that first minute or two in a bar or a grocery store. If you can effectively keep it light and playful for now, you will probably be someone she wants to get to the serious stuff with...EVENTUALLY.
Make Sure Your Spelling and Grammar Is Correct
You'd be surprised how many women will instantly delete your message if they look at your profile and see bad grammar or spelling.
Of course there are those women that will need to be resuscitated if they notice a comma missing from your sentence, and trust me your life is much better without them.
Still, making sure you use periods in the right places, capitalization, commas, and spell things correctly, is vitally important. Don't worry about a mistake here and there but having the basics in place is key.
I can guarantee you will start seeing better results from women online when you include these elements in your online dating profile.
I think everyone can agree that you need to stand out from the thousands of other guys trying to get women to respond to them. The question though, is what is the best way to do that? "Hi, I'm Bob, I like staring at women from across the room, and occasionally stalking them" will stand out, but I don't think Bob's inbox will blowing up any time soon.
That's why it's important to point out that you must stand out in a positive way. If you do this and say some memorable stuff, you can show women you are a real person and not just a collection of words on a screen. By following the suggestions below, you can also be someone she responds to and eventually agrees to meet.
So without further ado, let's get into some examples of what you want in your online dating profile.
Passions
You will get many more responses if you include something your passionate about in your dating profile. As long as it's not something generally considered really weird, like collecting Star Wars figures, it will make your profile much more exciting. Thus making it more likely to catch a woman's eye, or convince her to respond to your email.
Communicate The Right Things
You want to come across to women that you have sense of humor and a life full of things that you care about. It's also key to show you are confident and well adjusted.
Now, anyone can think of a list of great characteristics and write it in a dating profile, but if it really shines through by the way you write your profile it will be much more effective. For example, stating clearly why you're on the dating website, what you're about and what you're looking for will make you appear confident. So will leaving out any wishy-washy or insecure comments like "I don't know what to write on this thing". The effect of confident writing will be much better than simply stating you're confident.
Write In A More Descriptive Way
If you ever browse through men's dating profiles, (and seriously, I recommend doing it to know what the competition is doing), you'll soon feel your head start to involuntarily drop toward your chest as you desperately fight off your body's desire to nap. That's because the typical vague list of likes and attributes is excruciatingly boring to read. What's much better is to take one or two things that really show your personality, and get into more detail about it.
If you're a bit of a chef you can describe some of the things you've cooked recently or what you'd like to make soon.
Being more detailed will give a woman an actual vision of who you could really be, which will definitely stand out among the crowd. You don't even have to do that much with the details to really stand out, because 95% of men's profiles are about as boring as a scientific journal article.
Keep It Playful
I don't mean here that you have to be Mr. Jokester through your whole profile, just nothing overly serious.
Imagine a real life meeting where a woman busts out her feelings on the state of the economy after saying hello. You may care to discuss the topic, but not in that moment.
This is that initial communication. It's that first minute or two in a bar or a grocery store. If you can effectively keep it light and playful for now, you will probably be someone she wants to get to the serious stuff with...EVENTUALLY.
Make Sure Your Spelling and Grammar Is Correct
You'd be surprised how many women will instantly delete your message if they look at your profile and see bad grammar or spelling.
Of course there are those women that will need to be resuscitated if they notice a comma missing from your sentence, and trust me your life is much better without them.
Still, making sure you use periods in the right places, capitalization, commas, and spell things correctly, is vitally important. Don't worry about a mistake here and there but having the basics in place is key.
I can guarantee you will start seeing better results from women online when you include these elements in your online dating profile.
About the Author:
You should have a good foundation now for what to write in your online dating profile, however knowing what to leave out is equally important. Be sure to read Michael Kendrick's Online Dating Profile Tips for that information and check out Get More Dates Online for more useful articles about online dating.
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