Sunday, August 23, 2009

Getting An Ex Back Tips For Getting An Ex Back

By Destiny K. Harte

All right, so you want a plan for getting an ex back..... If you follow some of the strategies here you will be one step nearer to getting back with your ex. Keep in mind that breaking up is a painful experience for any one and this is true whether you were the one who decided to do the break up or it was the choice of your ex.

Right now you are most likely feeling a lot of pain. I know since I too have been in your position but the last thing you should do right now is to beg and plead for your ex to take you back. You both need to take some time to sort things out and start to appreciate exactly why you broke up in the first place.

Yes, the answer to this is crucial if you really want to get back with your ex. Seriously, if you don't know what went wrong, how are you ever going to be able to fix it. Once you have identified the real reason for the break up you can begin to make amends or to change your behavior.

Let your ex know that you are sorry but don't plead. Once you have had some time apart your ex will most likely start to miss you and wll be more likely to accept your apology. At that time you can let your ex know that you are willing to make some changes whether he/she is ready to try again or not.

Persistence is key at this point. Do not expect miracles because chances are your ex will not be ready to get back together just because you apologize and make some promises. You will need to prove that you are willing to change and to be a better person. You will need to let your ex see that you will put him/her first and will be more considerate of their needs.

You should continue to be social and go out with your friends,do fun things that you truly like to do. This will make you much happier and will also let your ex to see that you can still have a life with or without him/her.

If you feel that you were not giving enough in the relationship, let your ex know that you are willing to try harder. When you talk to your ex be kind and keep in mind the way that he/she may be feeling because this will come through in your actions and your words.

Doesn't matter what the reason for your break up, if you start to work on making yourself a better person all around, your ex will begin to take notice. Definitely remember to be yourself since you are after all the person that they fell in love with in the first place.

Be practical in your expectations of your ex because if you truly are putting some effort into getting an ex back it will take some time and a lot of patience. If you just keep doing the same things over and over you will not have a very good chance of getting your ex back.

Time apart can make a big change in how you both feel because the pain will begin to be less and less and your ex will no doubt begin to miss you and may begin to truly want to spend some time with you again. Don't wait too long before putting a plan of action together but do give your ex time to get over the hurt.

By going on with your life and letting your ex see that you are still the same amazing person he/she fell in love with in the beginning, you have a much better chance of getting an ex back.

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