Thursday, September 15, 2011

Is it Fine to Be Friends with Your Ex Lover

By Alyssa Villame


You might be friendly man that tends to be friends with everyone, but that doesn't mean that you should always think about being friends with your ex girlfriend. In some situations, it is inevitable to be friends with them especially if there were not dramatic moments between the both of your before you decided to part ways. But of course, if she hurt you and treated you like crap, then that is a different story.

There are relationships that are just meant to end. Even if you and your girlfriend seem perfect for each other, differences emphasized that you both have a mutual decision to stop any developing solid relationship.

This situation is clearly way better than a bad break up because it shows that you and your ex are mature individuals who can accept and move on without inflicting pain on one another. In this case, it is okay to be friends with your ex because being so would not hurt your health.

However, if you and your ex parted routes because of some unsolvable actions like infidelity where in you still carry a huge grudge against her, that is a different story. In fact, you may just even be friendly with that person because you think that you can change the circumstances by doing so. Worst, you may be using the situation to influence your ex or take revenge on her for hurting you.

More than it will hurt your girlfriend, being friends with her will hurt you more. You might see her with someone else and become sour with the view. That can lead to a serious depression caused by suppressed feelings. So whatever you do, resolve the issues with your ex first before turning her into a buddy. If not, just leave her and move on. Who knows, you might find someone else way better.




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