Extramarital Affairs: What Everyone Needs To Know... And What You Can Do To Help

By Alfred Lancer

Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital Affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity.

That may seem like a very steep number. However after two decades plus of full time work as a marriage and family therapist, I don't believe that number is off the charts. I worked with a great number of people involved in infidelity who were never discovered.

The possibility that someone close to you is or soon will be involved in an extramarital affair (any of the three parties) is extremely high.

Maybe you will know. You will see telltale signs. You will notice changes in the person's habits and behavioral patterns as well as a detachment, lack of focus and reduced productivity. Maybe you will sense something "out of character" but be unable to pinpoint what it is.

It is not a given that he/she will tell you. Those hiding the affair will continue to hide. The "victim" of the extramarital affair often, at least initially, is racked with anger, hurt, embarrassment and thoughts of failing that preclude divulging the crisis.

It might be important to confront the person with your observations, depending on the status of your relationship with the person.

It is important to understand that extramarital affairs are different and serve different purposes.

Out of my study and experience with hundreds of couples I've identified 7 different kinds of infidelity.

Briefly, some extramarital affairs are reactivity to a perceived lack of intimacy in the marriage. Others arise out of addictive tendencies or a history of sexual confusion or trauma.

Some in our culture play out issues of entitlement and power by becoming "trophy chasers." This "boys will be boys" mentality is subtly encouraged in some contexts. Some become involved in marital infidelity because of a high need for drama and excitement and are enthralled with the idea of "being in love" and having that "loving feeling."

An extramarital affair might be for revenge either because the spouse did or did not do something. Or the revenge may stem from rage. Although revenge is the motive for both, they look and feel very different.

Another form of infidelity serves the purpose of affirming personal desirability. A nagging question of being "OK" may lead to usually a short-term and one-person affair. And finally, some affairs are a dance that attempts to balance needs for distance and intimacy in the marriage, often with collusion from the spouse.

The prognosis for survivability of the marriage is different for each. Some affairs are the best thing that happens to a marriage. Others serve a death knell. As well, different extramarital affairs demand different strategies on the part of the spouse or others. Some demand toughness and movement. Others demand patience and understanding.

The emotional impact of the discovery of infidelity is usually profound. Days and weeks of sleeplessness, rumination, fantasies (many sexual) and unproductivity follow. It typically takes 2 - 4 years to "work through" the implications. A good coach or therapist can accelerate and mollify the process. I don't recommend "marriage" counseling, at least initially.

The devastating emotional impact results from a couple powerful dynamics. Trust is shattered - of one's ability to discern the truth. The most important step is NOT to learn to trust the other person, but to learn to trust one's self. Another is the power that a secret plays in relationships. THE secret exacts an emotional and sometimes physical toll that needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.

How can you help?

Those in the midst of their affair crisis told me they need this from you:

1. Sometimes I want to vent, get it out without censor. I know sometimes I will say what I shouldn't be saying. It may not be nice, pretty or mild. Please know that I know better, but I need to get it off my chest.

2. Every so often I want to hear something like, "This too shall pass." Remind me that this is not forever.

3. I want to be validated. I want to know that I am OK. You can best do that by nodding acceptance when I talk about the pain or confusion.

4. I want to hear sometimes, "What are you learning? What are you doing to take care of yourself?" I may need that little jolt that moves me beyond my pain to see the larger picture.

5. I may want space. I may want you to be quiet and patient as I attempt to sort through and express my thoughts and feelings. Give me some time to stammer, stutter and stumble my way through this.

6. I want someone to point out some new options or different roads that I might take. But before you do this, make sure I am first heard and validated.

7. When they pop into your mind, recommend books or other resources that you think I might find helpful.

8. I want to hear every so often, "How's it going?" And, I may want this to be more than an informal greeting. Give me time and space to let you know exactly how it IS going.

9. I want you to understand and welcome the ambivalent feelings and desires. I would like you to be fairly comfortable with the gray areas and the contradictions about how I feel and what I may want.

10. I want you to be predictable. I want to be able to count on you to be there, listen and speak consistently or let me know when you are unable to do that. I will honor that.

Extramarital affairs are powerful. Affairs are costly. They affect family, friends, colleagues and employers. Infidelity is also an opportunity - to redesign one's life and love relationships in ways that create honor, joy and true intimacy.

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Causes Of Jealousy

By Jeremy Chan

Jealousy is not a simple emotion. It is complex and difficult to define and understand. There are various reasons why we feel jealous. It is a human emotion and just normal that we sometimes feel it. But sometimes, it gets out of control. Once you begin to understand jealousy, it becomes easier to control.

Jealousy does not come out of thin air. You might think that you have valid reasons for being jealous but there might be a deeper cause for the problem. They have root causes and you need to know these in order to better understand why you are feeling jealous. The biggest part of the problem may be within you. These are the possible reasons and causes of jealousy:

* Self-confidence - The lack of self-confidence is often the main cause behind jealousy. If you have self-confidence, jealousy tends to take a back seat or at least become minimal and controlled.

* Self-esteem - This goes hand in hand with self-confidence. Having a poor self-image or low self-esteem is a big reason for jealousy. If you think you are fat or not fit to be with your partner, you tend to feel jealous when you and your partner are around people you think are better looking than you.

* Fear - There is always the niggling fear of rejection, of being alone, or of losing your partner. This is common, but fear should not overtake your positive emotions like trust, love, and security.

* Insecurity - If you have a poor self-image and lack self-confidence, the result is the feeling of insecurity. This might be the most obvious reason that you are feeling jealous.

If you are feeling jealous, the first thing you need to do is to acknowledge it and admit to yourself that what you are feeling is jealousy. Then ask yourself where it is coming from. Are you afraid of losing your partner? Or do you think you are not fit to be with him or her? Once you figure it out, ask yourself again why you are feeling insecure, or why you are feeling afraid. Then think of ways on how you can overcome this or control your emotions. Try to think of positive things and let positive emotions rule you instead of jealousy. This way, you might enhance your self-esteem and at the same time, improve your personal relationships.

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The Secret Of Happiness Is Relationship

By Masami Sato

Why are we living? What have we come here for? Every day we hear questions about the aim and purpose of our lives. And most of us continuously search for answers. How can we find happiness? That is one more question forcing us to search for its answer every day. What if the answer to those questions is straightforward? What if all those questions are just about ONE thing? Relationship. The secret of happiness is elucidated in the clear and inspiring voice of Masami Sato in the following excerpt of her book, ONE.

What are we searching for?

There are a host of things that we do in our lives.

However, have we ever wondered why we do what we do? What are we actually looking for?

The world is a confluence of millions of people of all continents, races, religions, and ideologies, doing different things. They look different and also act in different ways. All of us have different interests and each have a different viewpoint. We converse differently using different languages. We have different emotions and desires.

However, if we were to say there is just ONE thing we are ALL looking for, what would it be?

While I travelled all over the world, I did ask people one simple question, "What would you like to achieve in your life? What do you really want?"

At first, it seemed everyone was looking for different things as they randomly said, "Good job", "My own house", "A nice partner", "A loving family", "A soul mate", "More money", "Wealth". "Freedom", "Peace of mind", "A life purpose" There were many more answers.

I noticed that while some of these were temporal, and more related to day-to-day needs, others were of a more spiritual nature. We yearn for temporal desires because we do not as yet have it, or don't feel that we have it yet. As different from this, spiritual desire is not about getting things we do not have. It is about a 'feeling' we look for, which does not end no matter what we manage to achieve at every moment of our life.

If one could just remove all earthly desires from our list and look at only permanent desires, it would be obvious that we just want to continue feeling positive sensations like excitement, happiness, inspiration, motivation, munificence, affection, joy etc. - put in other words, we want to continue being happy.

Happiness

Delightfulness is a state of emotion that every one us are longing to experience. Every one of us may define it in a different way. We may even evaluate it differently. We may sense it at varied levels of intensity. But without doubt, we have something in general when delightfulness comes to us. And when we understand this secret about delightfulness, we hold the knowledge to become more delighted, and to make others around us too feel the same sensations.

Life is a mystery we are all living in. We all may love it in our own special ways. We may despise it in different ways. We may question it. We may treasure it. Or we may just have it, accept it, indifferently. But what is the purpose of our lives? What if the secret of our existence is so near? What if the secret actually brings us happiness and contentment when we discover it?

What if the secret of our life purpose, and of happiness, is as simple as this:

It is all about relationship.

Connection is everything

Everything depends on bonding. All things are part of some other things. A look at our own lives would say it all. Then we will begin to see the real purpose of life.

Why do we do something, ANYTHING in life as human beings?

It is just because we want to connect to others. We make friends to build a relationship. We get married to establish a relationship in a deeper and more permanent manner. We create a family to further strengthen that relationship. We go out to meet more people to connect with them, not only to get benefits out of those relationships, but also to become more connected to the world.

We buy nice clothes and go to a hairdresser to feel more connected to our sense of aesthetics and to our own physical beauty. We eat a variety of food to feel more connected to our sense of taste and smell. We dine out to feel connected to the people we share the meals with. We buy mobile phones and computers to connect with others and the world. We read newspapers and magazines to stay connected to what is happening and what others are doing and feeling. We study and learn to connect with what others know and value.

Every thing that we do is to satisfy the need of keeping alive relationships. It is our relationship to our own body that makes it imperative that we eat and sleep. Because of our relationship to our senses, we are asked to do things to satisfy the demands that body makes. If we ignore the demands that body makes, we have to bear the resultant aches and distress. And above our mundane needs, we yearn for another relationship - a relationship to our very existence - a relationship to our purpose. And without that connection, it is vacant. Just like the blankness so many of us feel when we have no relationship even to ourselves. That is just not the way our lives are supposed to be lived.

Connection is powerful, and yet it's fragile and tender

When we cannot feel the intimacy in a relationship, we opt for separation, divorce, quarrels, judgement, and disapproval. It never feels good to lose the intimacy in a relationship. Nevertheless, it is possible to fall in love with someone one day and fall out of love with the same person the next day. The feeling can alter just by a flick of a finger. And the flick might be by your finger or theirs!

When the bonds are not there

When the bonds are not there, we perceive problems all over. We start seeing disparities and obstacles. We begin passing judgement on others and reproaching them. We blow up, focus on and strengthen those things that we perceive as problems. When that happens, we might even turn all that negativity inwards and cause ourselves hurt and injury. We cannot feel completely happy when we have severed the bonds with even just one thing.

Bonding: the Secret to Happiness

What if we choose to perceive the entire thing in reverse? When we do that we understand this simple truth: we cannot feel despondent when we are in a strong relationship. It is simply not possible!

Try to feel moody when we feel the security of our bonding to the people around us and laughing and enjoying with our whole heart. Even if we have our own fair share of difficulties in life, we would still be able to break into a laugh and enjoy and feel good when the bonds are strong. At the same time, we would be unable to enjoy things when those bonds are absent.

Bonding: Our Life

Relationship is the core of everything. That is what life is. Relationship.

Everything is a unified whole of smaller units. Everything combines together to form a bigger unit; the way our bodies are a fusion of smaller entities like atoms, molecules, cells and organs.

Our actions and choices also express the need for connection. We are designed to constantly seek ways to connect to each other and to a greater purpose.

Connection and Religion

Some of us opt to be part of various religions to feel better bonded. This bonding that they seek could be to God. It may be to the people with the same convictions. When we share a similar credence, there is a greater feeling of being bound to the people in that group. More awarding and handing over takes place among people who are feeling strong bonds with each other.

Connection and Business

Many people start businesses to feel more connected to themselves by being in charge of their own destiny. But often in the business world, we end up feeling more and more isolated especially when we start perceiving other businesses as competitors, staff as tools and customers as a money stream. But the fundamental point of why we got into business was to feel connected. So, why do we need to create any isolation at all? Maybe in the ideal world, all the businesses worked differently, but together.

Connection and Wars

Some of us even give rise to polemics or battles to enjoy a sense of 'success' or maybe a greater feeling of assurance and self-worth. But this only boomerangs. The moment we are 'successful' in the battle, we are really severing the bonds with others. We are now in need of more confidence to safeguard ourselves from being assailed by others. The result is that we become more vulnerable and frightened. We cannot treat this as a joke because it actually happens to each one of us in diverse ways.

It may be the arguments we have with people around us. It may be the negative judgement we make when we feel something or someone is wrong. When we try to be the only one to win, we can never win in the real way-we feel disconnected. We can only truly celebrate the victory with others when we win together. Then we feel connected.

Despite the myriad ways in which we communicate our wants, everything we do is to fulfil the longing we have to feel and have strong bonds.

The complete experience of relationship is only felt through our heart. We can build a relationship with anybody when we truly care for them, and feeling that association with them. If we know this, forming that needed state is not difficult, but just simple and amusing. Then we would really feel more pleasure and contentment.

Life is just like a game. We experience things and do things in a game but fundamentally, the aim of any game is to enjoy. It is not about doing things or having things. When the game finally ends, the winners are only the ones who enjoyed the game. Not the ones who had more at the end. The results and outcomes of a game we play don't affect our true life. But if we lost all our friends to play with during a game just because we wanted to be the winner in this round, would it lead us to the real winning game?

It is easy to comprehend this when compared to acting in a play, but we often fail to understand it while enacting the play of life. We do not remember that life is also a play.

We have no idea when the play started and when it would come to an end, we know that it began some day in the past and it will be finished some day. When the curtain falls on the stage of the play, we can just say, "Wow, it was really good. Let's act in it once again!"

In the sports of life, the aim of the game is to establish a relationship. We can keep connecting until we all unite to become one. It is the one way to constantly feel the relationship to our objective - the feeling of pleasure and delight. We cannot feel detached from the relationship to anything or refuse and conclude even one thing if we are to achieve a lasting relationship.

Life is as uncomplicated as that. There is just ONE secret.

And the secret is to bond.

To become ONE.

To relish.

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Many Russian Women Dating Online Found True Love

By Lera Cupidonova

Internet dating has become a popular activity for many web surfers nowadays. Different dating sites were created to provide venues for individuals to communicate and mingle. Dating sites are social networking sites that allow people to meet other individuals across the globe. These dating sites make it easier for men and women to meet and find their "dream partner" in life. Such is the Russian Women Dating Online website that showcases Russian women looking for partners.

Before using a Russian dating site or any dating sites, membership is always required. A member must edit his/her personal page with all information relating to him/her. Self-portraits and self-description makes it easier for other individuals to learn more about each other. It is always important to specify what wants to have in an "ideal partner".

Members can browse through thousands of profiles of individuals that are members of the site. Photos are posted so men and women can see the member and send them messages. With exchange of letters, formal communication starts and fosters relationships that usually start with friendship. If both parties get along, they can meet personally and consider serious dating later on.

Dating sites made specifically for Russian women provides venue for them to find their partners. There are many reasons why Russian women join dating sites to look for "ideal husbands". Some of these reasons are stated below.

Nowadays, the ratio of Russian women to their men is 10:2. This statistics make it difficult for Russian women to find a husband. This is not only true in Russia but to some parts of the world. Some countries have greater women population than men. So women who cannot find husbands in their country look for foreign men to marry.

Another reason why Russian women date online is because they want to find a "good man". Some Russian men are not ideal husbands because they do not want to be committed. Marriage for many women is a sense of security. This is something that some Russian men cannot offer because they prefer live-in status. There are foreign men on the other hand that can provide this to Russian women.

Many economies today are unstable and Russia's economy is not exempted. Many of their citizens are going out to find jobs abroad because it is easier. Russian women wanting security found this from men from countries with a stable economy. This makes another good reason why they date online- to find foreign partners. Marriage to a man with a stable income makes a "good husband".

Many relationships fail because there are no serious commitments taken. In a failed relationship, women are almost always left behind. Many women want to be formally tied to a man to have a good future. It is also done to protect the interests of their children if they have any. Therefore, a woman always strives to find the "good husband".

Dating sites have become a good venue of fostering friendship from people around the world. It has also become a ground for finding one's perfect partner in life. Dating has given many individuals the happiness they are looking for. It is no wonder that many Russian Women Dating Online found their "ideal husbands" easily.

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Some Tips On You Can Stop A Divorce

By Julie Wilson

If you have invested years into your marriage and it begins to break down then you might not be quite ready to get a divorce. There are lots of things that you can do in order to stop a divorce from actually taking place, but it will be very important for you to recognise the signs early in order to restore your relationship.

It is crucial that you spend time together. Focus on devoting plenty of time to the purposes of simply enjoying each other's company. Try to remember experiences that you have had together where you have both been extremely happy. It is important that you are able to remember these experiences so that you can try to relive them.

Recognise and try to eliminate any unhealthy patterns that appear in your relationship. If Saturday's seem to be a day where one of you is off playing golf and the other one is off shopping, try to rectify this. If there are patterns that are causing harm to your relationship, address them immediately.

Your love life is a very important factor within any relationship. Physical contact cannot be overrated and as such when relationships begin to break down this is one of the first things to go. As such, start to rebuild your love life in order to regain the emotional and physical connection that you have had together.

It is absolutely crucial that you are able to prevent arguments from spiraling out of control. Try to recognise when arguments begin to develop and work out ways of shutting them down immediately. This is especially true when trivial arguments tend to develop into something more serious. If something more serious needs to be talked about, do it in a more mature an adult fashion.

You need to be completely aware of the part that you are playing in the breakdown of the relationship. It always takes 2 to tango and therefore you need to look at yourself and what character flaws you have. Work out what sort of strain you are putting on ownership through your personality and try to address anything that you can if it will help your marriage.

When large issues come to the forefront, such as an affair, make sure that these are discussed together. Affairs are a very common reason why marriages break down and when the sorts of things happen you need to try to work through the problem together. If not, you will never be able to reconcile.

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Do Not Be Scammed When Looking For Russian Brides

By Lera Cupidonova

It is common knowledge that men and woman generally want the same thing when it comes to marriage. Both want to find someone who is committed to them for life. In conservative countries like Russia, marriage is sacred to the culture. Russian brides are an ideal choice for a man who is looking for a woman who is beautiful and committed to marriage.

In Russian culture, marriage determines social status and demands respect. Women are taught that it is their responsibility to bear children and be the person primarily responsible for the child. From an early age, women are taught that maintaining the home and taking care of the family is their sole responsibility.

This way of thinking is not common in western women. Women's liberation taught women to believe that they do not have to solely exist to be wives and mothers. Many western men do not believe this and choose women from different cultures who are committed to being just a wife and mother.

The most common way to find an international bride is to use the Internet. There are hundreds of dating websites and dating agencies that are devoted to linking men with Russian women who want to leave their country and marry. This is often referred to as buying a mail order bride. However, dating online is not as simple as ordering from a catalog. There are certain key elements to consider when doing this because not all dating websites and agencies are honest. Some of them are simply scams. When you are linked with a woman, be upfront and honest about what you are seeking and expect her to do the same.

One of the most obvious indicators that she may be trying to use a man for monetary purposes is if she begins the conversation asking for expensive gifts or help financially. A woman who is solely looking for a husband will not say that she needs gifts and money.

You will communicate with the woman often, mostly through email and chats. However, it is important to take it a step further. Use modern ways to communicate as well. Phone, Skype, iChat and video conferencing are all available to help with this long distance relationship. If the woman is not willing to communicate using any of these ways, move on. She is probably trying to scam you.

While you are in communication with the woman and she says how much she loves you, consider this a red flag. Russian women do not take the words I Love You lightly. If she is telling you this early on, it is best to move on from her and continue looking for the right one.

If you have determined that the woman is right for you, it may be time to meet her in person. If you are prepared to finance the trip, take the proper precautions to guarantee you do not get scammed out of your money. Sending money to the woman or dating agency for a ticket is a bad sign. Offer to buy the ticket yourself. If this is not acceptable, it is most likely a scam to get your money.

Once the woman is with you, in your country, it is not the time to start planning to get married. This is the time to start dating the traditional way. Even though the intentions were made clear, a woman still likes to be courted. This is your opportunity to make sure she is the right person for you.

Although this is not a traditional way to find a bride, it is a perfectly acceptable method. If Russian brides are what you seek, then do not be afraid that society will not accept your new wife. Take your time and follow these simple guidelines and you will be on your way to a happy marriage.

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How To Get Into A Relationship

By Anderson White

Relationships are really what makes the world go 'round, aren't they? I mean, good, positive, healthy and meaningful relationships provide us with the richest experiences we have here on this old earth of ours. Your loving spouse who shares everything with you; that best friend who connects with you like few others do; the people at work who appreciate you and help you to become the best that you can be; This is what brings joy to life!

But... relationships can also be the bane of our existence! What really brings more pain in this life than a broken relationship, especially when it isn't just broken but downright ugly!

So, it behooves us to do all that we can to keep our relationships zipping right along, doesn't it? If we put our very best into our relationships we can almost guarantee getting the very best out of our relationships!

Through the years I have spent hundreds of hours working with people in their relationships: Marriages, friendships, working relationships and social relationships. Through it all I have seen some wonderful things and some terrible things. It truly is the good, the bad and the ugly!

But I have been able to find three core elements of successful relationships. These are things that, when done over time, begin to create for you the kinds of relationships that you truly desire. They are the kinds of relationships you have always dreamed of.

The key to remembering these three items is the acronym Z.I.P. Z.I.P. stands for three things you can do - and begin to do immediately - to improve any and all of your relationships. They are:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships. Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

Let's take a closer look at each of these three:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. By Zest, I primarily mean fun. Relationships were meant to be fun! We wouldn 't have been made with the capacity to have fun if relationships weren't supposed to have a little zest in them!

Think about it: Don't you usually start out most healthy relationships with a lot of fun times. Whether it is going out to dinner or a ballgame, or spending time playing a game or even just a lively talk, you usually have fun as a major part of the relationship. Fun is some of the glue that bonds the relationship.

But as life goes on, specifically in a marriage, but in all relationships really, the fun starts to go by the wayside. More and more it is about getting the job done, whatever the job may be.

To restore the relationship, to put a little zip into it, we need to reintroduce the idea of "zest."

What about you? Have you lost the zest? What can you do to get it back? Think of a specific relationship you have: What were the fun things you did at the beginning of the relationship that acted as the glue that bonded you together? Now, commit to doing those again and see if your relationship doesn't begin to soar again! If you can, develop new fun things to do together so you can both start an adventure of fun together!

Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships.

First a couple of clarifications: One, I don't just mean intimacy in the currently common understanding, that is, sexual intimacy. I mean for all intents and purposes, taking your relationship to a deeper level. Second, I don't mean that you have to start doing group hugs with your workmates or having revelation sessions where the tissue flows freely.

What I do mean is that every relationship that is mutually satisfying has a level of depth to it that provides meaning. This is really what the search is for in our relationships: meaning.

Remember when you first started your relationship, whether with your spouse or friend. All of that time was spent opening up, telling who you are, where you were from, what your likes and dislikes are. There was a deep sense of satisfaction with the relationship - that is why it continued. You liked who they were and you enjoyed being known by them.

But then something happens. We get to a certain level and the pursuit of depth ends. We stop sharing feeling, likes, and dislikes. We stop sharing joys and dreams and fears. Instead, we settle into routine. The daily grind takes over and we stop knowing one another and we simply exist together. Now don't get me wrong, every time you get together doesn't have to be deep. Remember, I am the one who advocates in the previous paragraphs just having plain old fun sometimes. But there is a need for regular times of intimate connection where we go deeper with others.

This is particularly hard for many of the male species like myself but it is not only possible but healthy and needed! If we want to have the kinds of relationship we were made to have, we have to open ourselves up to having others know us and for us to know others.

True meaningful relationships come when we are loved and accepted for whom we are at our core, not simply for acting the right way in our relationships so as to keep the other person in it.

Think about the relationships you would like to see improvement in. Take some time in the coming weeks and months to spend time just talking and getting to a deeper level in your relationship. Specifically, let the other person deeper into your world. You can't force the other person to be more intimate and you certainly can't say, "Let's get together and have an intimate conversation," because that would be too contrived. But you can make a decision for yourself that you will let others into your world. Perhaps this will be the catalyst for them doing the same.

You can guard yourself from intimacy but then you won't go much deeper and you will feel a longing in your heart for more, or you can begin the deepening process and see your relationships change for the better.

Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

The most meaningful relationships we have are those that are held together by a common purpose and vision for what the relationship can accomplish, not only for those involved but also for a greater good.

Let's face it, when people have a common purpose they feel like they are part of a team and they feel bound together in that relationship. Even when people may be disappointed in the people they are in relationship with, if they have a purpose, such as raising the children, they are much more likely to stick it out. Purpose creates bonds.

So what happens if we are proactively involved in seeking out a common purpose with those who we want to have a relationship with or those who we already have a relationship with but we would like to see it go deeper with? Well, it gets better and stronger.

Think about your strongest relationships. Aren't they centered around at least one area of purpose or a common goal?

What about a relationship that has cooled? Think back and see if perhaps you used to have a common purpose but it has gone by the wayside.

And what of your desire to see a relationship grow? Take some time to begin to cultivate a common purpose. Sit down with that person and tell them that you would like to have some common goals, some purposes that you pursue together. As you develop these, you will see your relationship strengthen in ways you never imagined!

Let's recap: You want your relationships to show a little "zip?" Then put a little Z.I.P. in them:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships. Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

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What Is So Amazing About Russian Women?

By Lera Cupidonova

Most people would agree that a woman is judged largely by her beauty. Depending on her background, she can be seen in a variety of ways. Asian women are loved for their exotic beauty. Europeans are a favorite because they combine tradition with open-mindedness. Russian women are different from everyone else, but have you ever wondered why? What makes them so different from other women? Without putting any of the other women down, we must say that there really is something unique and valuable about a lovely Russian woman.

One thing that we immediately think of is the beauty of the Russian woman's face, famous around the world. The best thing about this is that not only is she beautiful, but she knows it! They could be self absorbed because of this, but instead, they are simply encouraged to support this idea by always looking and feeling their absolute best. These women are not likely to go out in public without doing something to feel beautiful and but they do it because they know the truth behind the saying that, 'beauty will save the world'.

Russian faces are exceptionally attractive because their history incorporates the East and the West. They occupy the middle of two worlds, and their long history has experienced as many different races as it has rulers. There have been countless transformations, through different invasions and wars throughout time, and the Russian women show their history on their faces by collecting the best features from each transition. They have exquisite high cheek bones, fair skin, round faces, dark or dark blond hair and striking eyes that come in shades from green to blue to gray. Their features are strong but together create a soft, inviting, highly feminine expression.

Russian women seem to produce a large amount of estrogen, which is why their bodies look so womanly. Men from all over the world love the way Russian women's bodies look. They don't have the heavy bottom half that many European women complain of but instead are well proportioned and curvy. They are also known for their love for colorful and noticeable clothing items and know how to carry off highly feminine fashion. They, like Asian women, love gems, and will almost always have at least one fur coat. Do you have the image of a Russian woman with red lipstick and a lovely fur coat? Well, it's not just a stereotype. Russian women know how to be sexy and classic at once.

As far as resilience goes, Russian women are unbeatable. They can stand up to difficult situations, and have learned how to cope with people, places, and things that are not always ideal. This tolerance runs especially deep for their partners. They are supportive, nurturing, motherly, and understand when to quietly step in and help their friends and husbands. Their femininity comes not just in their faces, but also in their hearts.

Even though they are powerful and resilient, Russian females also know how to be sensitive. They may be tough and able to deal with problematic situations, but they as well understand how to be feminine, how to let other people direct. They know that it's not necessary that they are always in control, and they know how to create a balance between being proactive and being obedient and thoughtful.

Education and intelligence are important to the Russian woman. There is so much gender discrimination around the world, but in Russia females occupy at least half of the entire workforce. They understand the importance of education and have a deep respect for it, which is why they can have a career for themselves, even when they feel comfortable staying at home.

Spirituality runs deep in most Russian women. Although not seen as exceptionally religious, they do respect religions and maintain a personal spirituality that helps them understand and respect the morals of religious people. They very easily forgive and forget. They are compassionate and thoughtful and they like that the people around them feel comfortable and taken care of. Like we said before, even though they are beautiful and understand the power of it, they also know how to look after those around them.

Foreign men are a favorite of Russian women for partners and husbands. They make ideal partners for western men because unlike women from the western world, they are both highly intelligent and highly feminine. On dating websites, you will often find more Russian women than any else, because they love to find a man who embodies the same worldliness that they do.

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How To Date Women - Keep Her By Your Side

By Alan Robinson

If you already at the stage where you are thinking about how to date women, I assume you already possess a woman in mind and both of you might have gone on a couple of dates already. In this stage, you have a chance to show her that you're an independent and fun man to be with and make her wish to be a part of your life. Know that conveying yourself as an independent and fun guy doesn't imply you should try hard to impress her with false attitude and expensive gifts.

By "independent", I mean that you should stop asking for her approval on everything like "funny isn't it?" or "did you have fun?"; have confidence on yourself and lead the way. Become a man who can clear up his own issue, don't complaining about your problem in front of her and perceive yourself as a guy she can count on.

Moreover, DO NOT seeking to impress her with money. Some guys will instantly draw their visa card as soon as they see the woman they like point on an item in a shopping mall. But when you're trying to buy a woman's heart with cash, you'll get a shoppoholic woman and it'll lead to even more problems sometime soon. Moreover, she may ditch you immediately if you've gone broke or get fired from your high-class job.

By "fun", I am not saying that you ought to learn hundreds of jokes and humor. Jokes and humor will flow naturally from anyone who already understands how to date women properly. Just be fun, tease her, mess with her, and keep flirting. Concentrate the conversation on her thoughts and opinions and steer clear of "yes-no" question like a plague. Try to toss 1 or 2 imaginary question such as "if you are able to decide on where to live on, where would that be?" to understand her character and how she sees live. Keep building attraction and emotional connection with her by speaking about her passion and desire. Also, make her know you a bit better by talking about your interest and look for common characteristics between the two of you.

Even with "I'm fun to be with" attitude, your date will certainly going nowhere if you cannot create the "spark of chemistry". Don't count on your lady to do this; you as the man must lead and make the date keep exciting and enjoyable. Try to have more physical contact such as holding hands, putting your arm around her waist, or kissing her cheek. If she's comfortable with your touch, you might be able to proceed further on the next date (or even later on in the night).

You don't really need to be a guru at how to date women to please your woman. The things that matter are she's enjoying her time with you and your relationship keep escalating to the next level (if you keep it stagnant, you will end up as "best friend"). Making her laugh is not enough; you have to be involved deeper with her, both emotionally and physically. To be precise, you'll need to create the chemistry between the two of you to the point that people believe that you somewhat have romantic relationship with her. If you failed to convey this message, you might even find yourself a competitor; this is most likely to happen, especially in a club where plenty of guys are coming to get themselves a hot chick. By knowing and doing the right thing, this won't happen to you.

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Having An Amazing Russian Wife Is Simple

By Lera Cupidonova

International relationships are very common these days. Just ask anyone you know. A Russian wife may find her way to a British husband, or a French woman may fall in love with a Moroccan. There are thousands of possibilities and more people today than ever before. Of course it's possible that someone's soul mate was born thousands of miles away.

There are numerous examples of couples who have a relationship that spans culture, and are enjoying their time together, even if it is hard. Even though a long distance relationship may have it's difficulties, especially when one of the partners must make the decision to move to be in the same place as the other, it can still be an incredible and fulfilling experience, well worth the time spent in contacting each other online.

When people start looking for love on the internet, they sometimes wonder about appropriate behavior. It's vital to not only know where to look for a potential mate, but also how to talk to them and how to maintain a long distance relationship when you think you may want to take the next step.

Since the internet is relatively new, people still don't know how they should act when the use it to connect with others. Since it's such a new medium, there are lots of differences between it and other forms of communication. There are important things to remember when using the web to conduct a relationship with someone far away.

One thing to remember is that the age-old rules that we learned as young people about relationships and relationship behavior are pretty much the same online as they are face-to-face. It's important to be attentive and interested in what your partner has to say and what they care about. It's also important to ask about who they are, what they like to do and what their families are like. People like it when others show interest in them.

Another thing that might help in a long distance relationship is to not always use the internet to communicate. Sometimes, because the web is so efficient and easy to use, other forms of contact are forgotten. What about writing a letter, sending a postcard, or calling on the telephone? All of these are also wonderful forms of communication, and now are much more appreciated since the internet is so much easier to use.

People who have good skills with others face-to-face can also give advice for online dating because ultimately, they are very similar. They have a good sense of when and how to respond to the person you are interested in, and can provide an excellent source of support and ideas to improve and further a relationship. International love is not so different from having someone down the street but it can be a challenge at first.

A Russian wife, an American husband, a French wife, a German husband- people have found love from all corners of the world, and they can thank online dating for that. It's not such a challenge, and maybe even more simple than other kinds of dating, even though similar etiquette applies.

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Social Networking Discussed

By Sandra James

When it comes to your own online profile, you will have to know the basic rules. Make sure you can complete an interesting profile, because it will act like your business card for dates.

Rule 1: Never Lie!

No, don't run away, I will not start telling you about bible teachings. Nevertheless, lying is a very bad thing to do on online community websites. If you put a nice but untrue picture on your profile you might register success at first. But try to think about the outcome of your lie. No relationship should start with lie, even if they are small ones.

Rule 2: Identify what sets you apart from others.

All humans are beautiful in a way, all are unique in a certain manner and all are wonderful. We all have indubitable qualities but also nasty defects we have to keep under control.

Describe yourself with all possible details you can thing of. Don't give away any personal data, but offer information about you qualities, your hobbies, your ideas and so on. We all are nasty secret diggers and like to take a peek into someone's life. And because of this, a profile that's filled with various small or big "secrets" will surely become popular. You might even get contacted by someone that likes the way you hate a movie or who is also interesting in finding ovation for sale or likes the same luxurious cars.

Rule 3: Don't write as you never went to school!

I know the Internet allows us to use all sorts of abbreviations that surprisingly are no longer considered grammar mistakes if used online. Some young people think mixed words like "4fun" are efficient, but they don't say too many good things about the one who writes them. SMS chatting, online abbreviations and other strange language alterations should not be used in your descriptions. You never know who you might be coming across and the way you write is your first fingerprint when online. A mistake-free page shows it belongs to an intelligent person. Hilarious pages are too much, you need to make your page just a bit funny.

Rule 4: Post REAL but GOOD pictures.

We don't have to be really beautiful or experienced to make some nice pictures. Unfortunately most people guide themselves on first impression and looks when choosing a potential date. This fact makes the use of good and inspirited photos a must. Make sure you are visible in the photo and better choose some prime plans.

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Cigar Shop, CA And The Cigar "Coolness" Factor

By Alex Frasier

Cigar Shop, CA: High Status

Smoking a cigar with friends after a hard day of work is something that every cigar-smoking aficionado relishes. Just yesterday, a heated discussion on the status a cigar affords us came to light as a group of us were laying around at one of the best Cigar Shop, CA locations.

One of the guys made the comment that smoking a cigar used to seem more prestigious when every Tom, Dick and Harry couldn't pick one up at any local corner store. He was saying that back when it was a bit harder to get your cigar, it meant more to be a cigar smoker.

Cigar Shop, CA: Johnny's Rant

Well, this just flat out made Johnny madder than the mad hatter. Johnny takes his image quite seriously and took great offense at the thought that his status symbol might not be seen in the correct light.

Johnny said that he was cooler than any other guy out there for smoking his top dollar Montecristo. He started screaming that the only reason other guys could find cigars more easily these days was because they were buying $3 cheapies at the corner store.

Cigar Shop, CA: Hard to Focus

The other guys in our group tried really hard to think on what it was that Johnny had been yelling about. However, what was really going on was that the group was spending more mental power on the watching the young woman who walked by in that tight dress.

Finally, once the woman had turned the corner, we were all able to focus slightly on which side of the argument we were going to side with. What was the truth here? Had our coolness been zapped when it comes to smoking our cigars?

Cigar Shop, CA: The Final Decision

Johnny...on his third drink of the night...was getting louder and louder in defense of how great of a cigar smoker he was. The rest of us started screaming back, some in defense of how we had been made less-than-cool by the "corner store" phenomenon and some in defense of Johnny's position.

Our discussion never did have a conclusive answer, but we think the fact that we were saved from an all out brawl when our hot girlfriends, who love cigar smoking guys, came to pick us up for a crazy night on the town answers the question once and for all about how cool it is to be a cigar smoker.

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Game PUA - Underground Seduction Tactic Clarified

By Logan Cole

In just a couple of moments I will teach you a Game PUA technique that will have women experiencing phenomenal sexual feelings for you. By the way, you don't have to have millions of dollars or looks like Brad Pitt.

One of the elements that is a critical skill to succeeding with women is possessing a sense of humor.

Normally, I don't reveal tips such as these, but given that I've gotten way more than my fair share of women, I've made up my mind to let a small group of guys 'slip in on the fun'.

If you're intelligent, you'll take these techniques and draw in as many attractive women as you want. Before I give you a taste of what's possible, here's a quick story...

I know this guy who doesn't even care if there's a porn star in the room because he's going to approach them no matter how attractive they appear.

Get this - they all like him and chuckle at all his jokes. My friend can number close with the very best of us, yet he can't ever tend to get to the next step with these women.

See, he feels that his physical appearance or image are what's keeping him from succeeding, and he's chosen that he wants to get a cosmetic operation just to be 'better looking to women'.

Looks are not his setback... Chances are, it's not yours either.

A lot of men believe that women will only be drawn to them if they're "hot".

The reality is, you can be average looking, but if you can develop this one skill, you'll be the future Don Juan.

So what is this one skill you need?

Several pick up gurus refer to it as Sexual Tension. Women can't decide to feel sexual tension for a guy... It just COMES ABOUT NATURALLY. And you my friend, can CREATE it.

Let's say that I'm chatting to an attractive woman and I can tell right off the bat that she's really into me.

One routine I'll use at some point in the chatter is sort of a pull-push technique. I'll say something like...

"So where are you from? ... Oh really? That's so awesome because I know a few people from there and they're some of my best friends! Actually one of those was my ex girlfriend, so now we can never be friends. You remind me too much of my ex!"

You'll want to say this in a playful way. Can you recognize why this works so effectively?

When anyone says to you that you can't have something, we WANT IT MORE. Tension escalates inside us because of it.

This is a special kind of sexual tension and you can utilize this as a template to develop some of your own lines to use.

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Carry A Taser To Prevent Rape

By Jessi Deamond

I willingly shed my all girls school biases so I could attend university with an open mind. It gave me a bit of a culture shock in my first year. Boys did not always respect girls and peer pressure sanctioned this behavior.

The prospect of school perils including date rape or a fraternity initiation came with every time kids gathered for fun after dark. At the risk of being perceived as goody-goody, it motivated me to carry a Taser to prevent rape.

The Taser C2 shoots two darts secured to wires safely within a 15 feet range. A brother some years my senior let me in on this one weekend he visited home while staying at a dormitory.

How he reiterated that I could lawfully carry a Taser to prevent rape once I turned 18. He warned me about date rape drugs, underlining that I could shoot a C2 while drunk or drugged. It would work on any part of the attacker?s body.

I did not expect his lecture would soon give me a reality check. Not only was he right about the Taser C2, he was dead on about what happens in college.

I went to see a gig of some bands with some schoolmates including someone from the dorm next door. I do not suppose he knew I would carry a Taser to prevent rape because he was all over me that night.

After I rejected his advances, he became very pushy. We were right there among fellow students but everyone was drunk and oblivious to what I was going through. I was on my own.

I did not have to shoot my C2. He backed off when he saw that I had the presence of mind to carry a Taser to prevent rape. I learned that night to stop being obliging even if it meant I stopped being popular.

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The Ultimate Ex Girlfriend Guru Review - Get Her Back Without Begging!

By Jeremy Sullivan

If your idea of getting a woman to come back is begging, groveling, and shattering your manhood, you desperately need this Ex Girlfriend Guru review. The truth is acting in that manner is more likely to turn her off then bring her back!

Don't follow the path of so many other men who think the only way to get a woman to come back is to concede defeat and turn over everything in their life that makes them a man. You can get everything you want from your ex plus without becoming a whipping post for the rest of your life.

There is a window of opportunity that you can take advantage of, no matter what you may have done to tick her off to begin with. It doesn't matter who left who or for what reason, you can get her back without begging. You can make her do the work to bring the relationship back together.

Even more important than just getting her back is having her back because she asked for it. They science behind these psychological principles will show you how to work with her mind so that she believes it is all her idea to come back. She will come back handing you the control, rather than demanding it from you.

You may be wondering if all of this actually works, right? Take the advice of this knowledgeable Ex Girlfriend Guru review and know that other men have tried the methods in this book and most of them to this day live happily with the women of their dreams.

It isn't the reading of the book that does the magic. It's having the courage to follow through with the strategies and techniques that you read. If you knew exactly how to get in your ex girlfriend's head and lead her right back to your arms without her even knowing she's being lead...wouldn't you do it?

Doesn't her coming back on her own desire sound more appealing then sacrificing your manhood and your control of your life to beg her back? You don't want to bow down and give her everything she demands on a platter just to have her in your life.

In fact, have you ever wondered why so many relationships that do come back together meet quick failure once again? It's because someone was guilt-tripped into coming back and the other person had to give up their happiness to make it happen. Go with this book instead and create a win-win situation where you both get what you want.

Getting your ex back is actually pleasurable if you go the Ex Girlfriend Guru review way. Take action now, before that window of opportunity closes and your chance is gone.

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The Top Method To Get Your Ex Back

By Douglas Fernandez

Relations are difficult work. Don't let anyone else ever tell you otherwise. There are such a lot of things that would be a point of conflict between you and your important other. It could be the little things that annoy you. Like the way he always leaves the can seat up, or how there is a pile of mail on the table that's weeks old. Or maybe its the pile of mucky socks that he never appears to see. These are the minor things that over time start to irritate and irritate you. Eventually they become huge things and then you are no longer together and she has now your ex. But what if you want to get your ex back?

The first thing you've got to do is work out exactly why you broke up in the 1st place. You might think you want to get back and all the reasons why you broke up aren't important, but they were vital to you at some point you you need to at least understand what they were so you can put them behind you. When you have identified the explanations why you split up you want to truly ask if the same stuff occur again, will you be ready to handle it.

There's no point in getting back together if you're just going to break up again. That said, you'll have to learn to compromise and let some things go, just like he will.

Communication is the key here. If you don't let each other know what all the reasons were that you split up in the first place, then you will never get your ex back. There are some specific things you need to do after you've started speaking again.

There was a reason that you and your Ex were initially drawn to each other, and this was because you are a unique person. Think of what made these first weeks or months so special, and try to identify what has modified.

Sometimes relationships can become dull and you can forget what it was that made both of you compatible. Learn how to accentuate your qualities and struggle to be the genuine person you are. This replenished self-perception of yourself will rub off on everyone around you.

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Are You Still Arguing With Your Girlfriend? Knock It Off And Be Happy!

By Steve Steiner

Arguments with your girlfriend, unfortunately, are a fact of life at some point in a relationship. Disagreements seem bound to happen despite all the love and respect you feel for each other. You'll find that sometimes tempers flare for no real reason, and arguments start for the most ridiculous reasons!

Sometimes you feel just as bad whether you "won" or lost! Before the bickering takes over and destroys the relationship, you've got to do something!

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #1 -- Will it Matter Tomorrow?

You can't fight about every perceived wrong. You should get used to not getting you way all the time, because a woman worth staying with won't put up with it. If you know she's got a problem with punctuality, for example, does it make sense to start bickering with her every time she shows up late? If you start the evening off bickering about her lateness, that's going to be the tone for the entire evening. Sound like fun? If it doesn't, don't let her being a few minutes late ruin her evening - and yours.

Don't misunderstand - there are plenty of big things that might happen that you'll have to confront her on. Just because you're trying to let go of the small things doesn't mean you should ignore it when she takes large sums of money from your savings account. When such major issues come up, you have to address them right away. When something like that happens, you've got to sit down with her and address the problem directly. But if she left the cap off the toothpaste tube, so what? I mean, cry me a river! Let it go!

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #2 -- Share Your Feelings

Our women tell us that one of our biggest problems is that we men like to keep things bottled up inside. Issues just sit and fester until suddenly there's a major problem. This is a counterproductive way of dealing with issues. For instance, if you find yourself picking up the tab all the time and it bothers you, let her know that it feels wrong to you.

Your conversation needs to be calm and civilized, though, and you can't call her a miser! Not everything that annoys you was done deliberately for that purpose. Many women don't want to pay in public because they don't want their men to feel embarrassed. If, during your talk, you find this to be the case, it should be a lot easier for you to find a solution to your problem.

If you want to avoid an argument with your girlfriend, try an open, straightforward discussion.

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #3 -- Be a Trend-Spotter

The things we fight about are frequently immaterial - it's the fighting itself and the general subject matter that might form patterns that are instructive. Something you might experiment with is this: look at the last few arguments and see if there's any common thread.

When couple bicker, it's frequently about a narrow range of issues. If that's the case with you, you should discuss those issues together calmly. If there's something about her behavior that's bugging you, don't tell her there's something wrong with her - tell her how you feel when she does it. Feelings aren't good or bad, they're just there. If you share your feelings about things, you'll understand each other better, and you'll find yourself paying attention to each other's feelings more. Problems have a way of shrinking, and solutions become more obvious, when the two of you are sharing and working together.

Sharing your feelings with your girlfriend is a basic element of what relationships are all about. Honesty is a crucial part of your relationship. Being "right" isn't. Discuss things honestly and openly, and you'll be able to stop arguing with her and enjoy spending time with your girlfriend.

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In Which Bouquet Of Flowers Will Make Her Heart Sway?

By Byron Wright

The traditional Egyptians are thought to be first to use flowers as symbols of love. What a trend they set millennial later on flowers are still at the very top of the charts for gifts of love.

Love is a very broad category, and luckily, so are flower kinds. Love can be voiced as closeness, as intense zeal, as filial, and any relationship in which respect and care are the foundation. So, when selecting flowers to send to whomever your feelings bend to, and in whatever degree of love, there are flowers that are acceptable.

Outside your feelings for the woman or man, consider her or his feelings the kind of person receiving the flowers is more critical than the meaning of flowers, as interpretations differ, and while you could be fervently crazy about a girl who loves nature, she may like simple ivy to red roses. As well as the character, flowers can splendidly complement a way of life. Pay attention to the sort of environment, colors and type of those you like, and they'll be impressed by your sensitiveness to what they adore. When thought goes into a bouquet, the gift takes on an alternative meaning, and will likely be recalled long after the blossoms end blooming. First on the list in selecting your bouquet is to grasp what you need to assert in giving it. If you're giving the bouquet to one who is contented and captivating, and your relationship is trusting, chrysanthemums or daisies convey this message.

If you're falling completely in love, but it's still quite frolicsome and the tone isn't too heavy yet, hyacinth is an option. These bright flowers themselves are frolicsome, with a robust, overwhelming smell. This sums up the first stages of love for many couples!

A little of modesty might be lost in receiving such a gift of understated subtlety. When we are giving flowers for romantic purposes, don't feel restricted to red or pink roses. As well as the gorgeous rose, other romantic contenders include tulips, lilacs, wildflowers, and orchids. If ultimately, after all of the years of motherly love, you wake up one day desiring to recognize mummy for all that she is done, pink carnations are a particularly engaging choice, as they represent a mother's everlasting love. According to legend, carnations resulted from the tears of Mary as she observed Jesus carry the cross.

Therefore, in giving carnations to ma, you are spotting the years of perpetual love that she has given to you! While flowers historically have their own language and meaning, don't feel restricted to flower language when selecting a bouquet.

Regularly much more relevant to your life is the character of the individual receiving the bouquet. Beginning with the eternally beloved drama queens (and kings) in our lives, the flowers they receive should represent their fiery personalities.Best for the dramatic one is a spray of bold colors in a pointed, non-traditional vase. Maybe a metallic square vase is in line here. While pleasing an artist aesthetically may appear a mission most unlikely, edge towards exotic flowers. Their scantiness will delight the inventive eye, and if you ask the florist to suggest some flowers of atypical shapes, this may be even better eye candy for the artist. The free-spirited and natural will adore that which reminds them of being outside: green and ripening plants, with some spicy smells added to take the imagination away from recent life. A classic beauty will like a normal arrangement of lush and numerous flowers, while the romantic will enjoy softness in both colors and perfume, with ribbons decorating the bouquet. Beyond character, if you're looking for a rather more interesting way to please, select the bouquet based totally on other considerations, for example color or home interior. Knowing her favorite color, and giving her a bouquet with that color as the focus will make any flower that much more appreciated. If you're going to an event, be it a ball or an anniversary dinner, work out the color of her dress previously, and order a bouquet which will match or counterpoint the dress. Regardless of if it will not go out with the pair of you, it'll look good in any pre-photos. Did granny buy new curtains that she is very happy with? How touched she'll be when you give her a bouquet that enhances her lovely new curtains (regardless of your opinion of them). The general type of an apartment or house can be considered. Do not feel you have to purchase a big gushing bouquet if the studio where the flowers are heading is minimalist and modern.
Florists are artists, and they can make a bouquet as different as you ask for. Naturally, with all of the meaning that flowers can take on, most critical, and most pleasant to the receiver, will be the flowers that have private meaning. If, on your initial date mooching through St. James' Park, you pinched a tulip to electrify your girl, this is going to be the most romantic flower to you as your relationship moves forward.

Rules are always guidelines, but life experience should be what marks and makes our own tenets. Do remember that whatever the flower, you can always enhance its seriousness by selecting a color she likes. Still, knowing the conventional meanings of flowers helps you decide what message you need to convey in giving flowers. Knowing their character and life-style will add to making a bouquet 100% unique to that person. Thus, when selecting flowers, there is not any wrong or right, but the more thought you put into the bouquet, the longer it'll be valued and recollected.

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Learn To Forgive Your Partner

By Charlotte R. Brame

It's not said without reason that it's very difficult to forgive a person who has done something wrong to you. The statement holds more importance when the person in question is your own partner. While you may always take hurt to your heart and snap off all ties with you partner, it is not necessarily a sane decision. If you believe that relationships are for keeps, it appears reasonable to forgive your partner. Though forgiving your partner is quite a difficult task, the following suggestions may make the method simpler for you.

The 1st step towards forgiveness is to talk it out. 'Talking' here means talking only and not screaming or throwing away things, specifically your favorites like the Clearpores Skin Cleansing System. Both of you have to act like two mature and grown up individuals. Sit down and express what you feel. While you say what you want to, it is also important that you lend your partner a patient ear too. Once you talk it out, you'll feel much lighter and forgiving will be a tad simpler.

Another thing that can help you forgive your partner is to spend some time off from your partner. This could help you get clarity of thought. Giving some space to your other half may help you think things in perspective. Such time off may help you analyze your feelings and thought patterns in a better way, making it simpler to decide if you actually want to forgive your partner or not.

Before you forgive someone, you must first alleviate yourself of the agony and sorrow by crying. The luxury of crying can help alleviate any hurt you feel and allow you to let go off the emotions suppressed within you. Crying, may also help ease out any emotional turmoil which you might be suffering from.

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Do not live in your past. Though erasing all the past bitter and harsh memories is not a possibility, the least you could do is to try to evade them to the highest feasible level. If you keep on thinking about the hurt inflicted on you by your other half, you will not be able to forgive your partner ever.

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It may not be extremely easy to forgive your partner. However, if you want life and your relationship to move on, then adhering to the golden rule of forgiveness is a must.

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Split Personalities Disease Of Human Personals

By Vanessa Cruz

Most human possesses personality and this is how they characterize themselves. Speaking of personality, there is particular disease that has relationship with human's personality and attacks human's mind called split-personality disorder. You may have ever heard about this before and of course this kind of disease will disturb the personals who suffer from it.

In details, according to the basic definition about Split Personality, "it is a relatively rare dissociative disorder in which the usual integrity of the personality breaks down and two or more independent personalities emerge". According to the psychiatry, there is no special category or phenomenon about split personality. Previously, it was once stated that the example of split personality was schizophrenia. But then it was found out that it was a misleading conclusion to say that schizophrenic personals are examples of split personality. Schizophrenia is a condition when someone has a great struggle to keep and maintain the coherence and integrity.

Specifically, there are three different meanings about the term of 'personality,' whereas the two of them are general and popular and the third is technical and philosophical. The most general meaning is the first one that explains that personality is the sum of the characteristics which compose physical and mental being, such as manners, appearance, tastes, habits, and moral character. The second meaning describes the characteristics that differentiate between one and another. Furthermore, the third meaning is considerably the most important among all. This meaning is merely the only conception of any value to the psychic researcher and the philosopher or psychologist. It means that personals have the conception of personality that emphasizes only with characteristic. There are no difference between common and specific marks. Moreover, this third meaning is also extremely different with the previous two meanings and it attracts continuous misunderstandings between the philosopher and the public mainly about the discussion of survival after death.

Back to the discussion about split personality, it will be necessary to trace its history to learn that this split personality is really a disease that attack personals' mind. Medical literature reported that the cases of split personality probably had been occurring since early 19th century and the situation was formally defined in the first years of 20th. Even though the cases of split personality are really rare, the facts about people with this disease were become more common in the 1980s. The publicity of a book entitled Sybil, a story of a woman who lives with 16 personalities made an innovation that concluded the idea of multiple personalities caused by someone's childhood trauma.

In addition, below are the facts about people with split personalities. The first person is William S. Milligan, a person with 24 personalities and each of the personality has different appearance and manner, the first ten dominant personalities in the mind of Billy Milligan are Billy, Arthur, Leigen, Allen, Tommy, Danny, David, Christine, Christopher, and Adarana. The second is Claudia Ellen Yascow who had killed four people but then found out to have mind problems.

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Pick Up Hot Women - 5 Hints You Should Know!

By Charlie Valentino

Here's a few tricks i will show you to help you pick up hot women! You must promise to use these tricks with caution as they're very strong. Anyhow without further ado, here is how to pick up hot women.

1. Look Your Best - No matter what you've been informed, looks do count for quite a lot! Lady's are afterall looking for alluring genes to pass down to their children. You don't need to be good looking but it helps, you can still easily know how to pick up women as long as you're well groomed! So be well groomed! Next, if you look your best you will feel more sure of yourself, which will make her more attracted to you than your looks ever will!

2. Go Direct - If you've never attempted going direct on a woman then you really should try it! You will make her day and stand out immediately! Just go up to her and say "hey, i saw you from over there and i just had to come over and say hi, as i think you are beautiful!"

If you've never tried it then you will never know how it feels to completely make a ladies day! Give it a try!

3. Dont Hesitate - If you hesitate then the moment will go by and you'll start making reasons why you should not approach her! This is extremely sinful! If you see her, approach her!

4. Be Primed - Be prepared with a transition! The best way to do this is by recognizing something on her that you actually really like and compliment her on it instantly after you have gone direct! So if you like the way she's dressed tell her, and talk about something precise! Say that it is very unusual to see a lady in your town who is very stylish!

5. Practice - That is the most part of it, there is more but i could tell you all the techniques in the world and they will mean nothing if you do not practice. So give it a try the next time you see that lady!

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How And Where To Find Wealthy More Aged Men Online

By Areelitaha Joahlanski

If you are looking for an more aged and rich guy who is well secured financially and can supply you with the kind of life style that you always wanted but were unable to have because from the lack of a great bank account, then maybe you're one from the many young women who are interested in knowing where to discover wealthy older males online.

This kind of guy is recognized to many as being a sugar daddy. An more aged guy who just loves the company of a fine youthful good looking lady. For the young lady, having an more aged rich guy will permit her to have the type of freedom of never being concerned about working once again. As he will supply for the her the points she was never capable to afford prior to in her life.

He is really a guy who might have reached a certain point in life in regard to his wealth, status and career, and could be looking for a more youthful woman without a serious relationship.

It's not as well hard to see why sugar daddy dating is getting a very popular niche of this online dating today. It seems to help bring together those individuals who're in search from the finer things in life.

These more youthful women do admit the reasons for this concept of meeting up with older wealthy males is too be treated more better as a person. There are large numbers of these ladies who're quite willing and really ready to join these websites in hopes of becoming capable to connect with one of this rich more aged males and by becoming a member of those websites they shall have their opportunity to find them.

These type of websites do offer a way for youthful women and more aged rich males can meet one another by the use of chatting, virtual kisses, some private emails or messages. The websites contains many men who are married and are looking for some extra marital affairs with more youthful women.

So should you be a youthful and appealing woman who is interested in living a much more richer life style there are quite lots of ways that more youthful women can meet these older wealthy guys, such as chat rooms, private emails, virtual kisses and some instant chatting. The women can so browse many photo galleries as well. These sites can allow women to tell just what kind of more aged men they are interested in meeting.

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Four Ways To Save Your Marriage

By Areelitaha Joahlanski

Being happy in your marriage may sometimes seem like an unobtainable goal. Over time your unhappiness can turn into feelings of resentment. We begin to blame our spouse for everything that may be wrong with the relationship. Once this has happened, it may seem impossible to get past it. The good news is that with some hard work on both of your parts it is almost always possible to fix a broken marriage. Heres are some suggestions that may help you to save your marriage.

Know Your Feelings

Before you can fix the way that you feel you must understand why you feel that way. Arguments lead to anger and hard feelings, but what is the real reason for the arguments. If you are truthful with yourself and your spouse does the same, you will probably discover that although on the surface the fights are about many things, the real reasons are all the same. Perhaps one spouse feels ignored or that their needs are not being met. Maybe one spouse is too controlling and the other feels like their opinion doesn't matter. Whatever the truth is, if you can discover these reasons then you can start to fix the real problems.

Don't Lie

Being honest is not always an easy thing to do. However, if you want to save your marriage you will need to be completely honest, not only with your spouse but more importantly with yourself. If you aren't, the resentment and anger that has been building throughout your marriage will never go away. Be honest about what makes you feel angry or hurt, but also be honest about what you need to be happy.

Forget the Past

All of us make mistakes on a daily basis. Granted, some errors are larger than others, but you need to find a way to let go of the hurt and anger on a daily basis. If you allow the anger to stay it will grow. Every new mistake will build on the previous ones and soon you will spend most of your time angry. It is very hard to reconcile your differences if you are angry all of the time.

Get Outside Help

Finding a good counselor may be the best solution. The right person can not only provide a sounding board for you to bounce you feelings off of, but they can give impartial advice. If you decide to go to marriage counseling, you must both be willing to listen and honestly try to make use of the advice he or she is offering.

Trying to save your marriage can be a long and difficult road to travel. Keep in mind that the end result will be a partnership that may strengthen both of you.

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Great Tips For Saving Marriage

By Areelitaha Joahlanski

Every now and again, couples will run into a brick wall and feel that the marriage is just about to come to an end. For some couples, they feel that saving marriage is not even an option and that everything is simply too far-gone. If you do not want to flush your marriage down the toilet, then look at they simple ways that you and your spouse can look into when trying to save a marriage.

Many people who run into trouble within their marriage tend to take the easy way out and go for a divorce. This can make any situation even worse, especially if you have children together. You may want to look into getting into marriage counseling that can help you get down to the root of your issues.

Most couples do not even realize that they are having communication issues until it is nearly to late. If the two of you are constantly arguing, you cannot call this communication. In order to get on top of this matter, you may want to go out to dinner at a favorite restaurant and just sit down and talk. This way, you will be able to keep control of your temper and you will be able to listen to your significant other. Those of you, who have trouble forming words together, may want to look into other forms of communication. This can includes letters, notes, even emails that can describe how you are feeling and what you want out of a marriage.

You may also want to reflect on yourself and find out if you have built up some sort of wall that is blocking your spouse. Some couples of deep emotional issues that need to be talked about and address in order to save a marriage from the confines of divorce. Look deep inside of yourself to find out, if your emotions may be causing problems in your marriage. You can even sit down with a counselor all on your own; if you feel that the issues are personally coming from you.

Another great thing that you can do on your own is get with a therapist or a guidance counselor without your spouse. This is great for those who have personal issues that they are dealing with and it can really clear the air. You can even bring your spouse in and discuss what is bothering you when you are ready.

What you need to do is simply sit down and talk, or sit with a counselor and have the counselor mediate and monitor the situation. It is not going to do you any good to simply throw your hands up and quit so give it a shot and try again.

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